Hide my ID please. I just need serious advise. I am a young widow. My husband died a year after our marriage. He had cancer. I mourned him for three years before the family allowed me to re-marry. Since then,I have been in one relationship or the other and they all want the same thing.
All they want is s*x. No one wants to marry someone that already has a kid. To be honest, that makes it really difficult to date. I am not that type of woman to be sleeping around. I ignored several relationships because of this. I do used to get insult as a result of this. They will say why am I acting like a virgin,after all I have been married before.
So far, I have tried to be a responsible person. I am only 29. Five months ago,I met someone. A very nice guy,polite,respectful and funny. We became very close but I told him no s*x. He was surprised but he agreed. He even said he is impressed by my standards.
To be honest,I love this guy and every day,we get closer,I cannot wait for him to ask me to be his wife. I have met some of his family and he has met mine. He has a good job and all. This looks like a perfect situation for me until this lock down.
We could not see each other at the beginning of the lock down. I missed him so much, I could not bear to be away from him so I asked him to come and see me. He came and we spent the whole day together which was so fun. He wanted to leave that evening but I did not know if he could be able to see us again so I asked him to stay with me for a while.
That night,we tried our best but I could not hold it any longer. I yielded and had s*x with him. I love him ma and he loves me. I just feel so bad after making love with him. I told him it was a mistake. He laughed and said ok. We ended up doing it again. I cannot help myself.
But I feel bad every time we make love. I do not want to be taken that cheaply. My guy is a gentleman. He admits he too cannot wait any longer . He then suggested we get married right away. We are looking at doing a court wedding next week. I am excited but also scared. We have only known ourselves for five months.
Although,I feel so close to him that I feel I have known him for years. I love him,he loves me. The only issues is: my parents feel I am rushing and they want us to wait until after the lock down. Both of us cant keep our hands off each other. I might be pregnant before the end of this lock down.
I know this is not how I envisaged to get married. Someone might say its the s*x that is pushing us. Maybe. I wish I never obliged cos there is no going back again. My conscience tell me the only way is to do it the legal way….
Besides, what if they extend this lock down again…how long are we going to wait…is five months not enough? I know my people probably want to attend our wedding which the lock down will not allow them. Same for his people. But both of us have very strong emotions and the chemistry is just too much.
I really want to get married…what could possibly go wrong with this..please advise me…are we doing the wrong thing?
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