Please hide my identity. I was married to a very beautiful woman for 4 years. We have a son. I thought we were in love but through out the marriage,I worked very hard to be the best husband but I was not enough for her. Nothing I ever did was enough. She complained of me not meeting all her exorbitant needs even though I was spending almost 70% of my salary on her.
My wife liked the good life. We ate out most of the time. She wanted to live at a certain class cos she is actually from a well to do background. I tried but I could not keep up. We argued alot until one day,she filed for a divorce.
I was really blind sided by the divorce. I tried everything to stop it but she was adamant. Her family backed her up. Anyway,I waited three years hoping she would change her mind. The divorce finally went through. My ex wife has remarried.
My divorce made me dislike the idea of marriage. I have dated a few ladies but soon as things begin to get serious, I cut it off cos I do not want to get married again. Everyone keeps telling me to remarry but I really do not want to.
My mother is afraid I will grow old alone. I do not want that but I have not found anyone who has agreed just to be my lover without marriage. I believe marriage is not for everyone. Some one like me. I feel like I will fail again if I get married.
I am the kind of guy that is loving,kind and will do anything to make a lady happy. Why is that not enough? Marriage is just a piece of paper. Why is it not enough for people? Human beings can disappoint you if you do not meet their expectations…I cannot go through that again in my life
My divorce really hurt me. I feel marriage complicates things. I am dating a very lovely lady now. For like 4 months. she is already hinting at marriage…I fear I might loose her again…but I do not make another mistake. I need advise.
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