I really do not want to sound inconsiderate but I really need to breakup with my girlfriend but I do not know how to tell her. When I met her three years ago,she was a very simple girl. We were both working but earning below 70k at the time.
Those were simpler days. She was humble and very easy to please. But as God blessed her,she got a job in a fancy company in Lekki. She earns over 300 % of her previous earing.I began to notice changes. Gradually at first but before long,very noticeable changes.
She wanted to fit in the glam life. I do not have a problem with that. Everything changed. She moved to Lekki. She got glam cars and wanted glam friends. I was happy for her …as long as she was happy. I am not the type of guy that hates on his woman’s success.
To be fair to her,she was generous with the increase in her earning. We started saving cos we are planning to get married this year. I have met her family and she has met mine. Introduction has been done. But the changes I have seen in the last 6-9 months have made me really slow down and I want to break up.
First,she has become very flashy in her dressing. She spends a ton of money on clothes and make up. I like simple ladies with little or no make up. Now,her nails are so long and scary. Her face is made up with layers of pancake and she looks like all these desperate lagos big girls.
At first,I did not want to complain as I wanted her to be herself. But alas,she got deeper into this and I do not like it anymore. Three months ago,she started talking about plastic surgery for her but. I told her there was no need. She tried to convince me,told me it was the new normal.
I was made to understand that 7 out of 10 ladies in Lagos have done plastic surgery. She kept insisting so I gave in. It was her body and her choice right? She got it done and I must admit,she looks good with it. However,it only drew me apart from her. I began to dislike the kind of person she has become.
She noticed my withdrawal from her and instead of admitting that she is the one that has changed,she says I want to break up with her cos I have found someone else. That is not true. I have not found anyone else…I just do not like who she has become.
All she likes is post different make up pictures of herself on Instagram,showing off her butt. Seeking for likes and comments on her she looks. When I talk,she says I do not want her to be happy. Talks about that I am feeling insecure with her success…ha.
Agreed….I supported the plastic surgery but she forced my hand. She looks so fake and that is not the picture of a wife that I desire. How do I break up with her without looking like a bad person? I just cannot…her people might feel bad but I just cant…
I have been giving this a lot of thought…I am not happy with the way she looks and she says I want to change her…instead of arguing…should we not break up…let her be happy with herself…why do I have to look like a bad guy if I leave?
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