Click here for part 1 of the story.What do you think this young lady should do?
She told me she had told the boyfriend that she had refrained from any sort of relationship so she can concentrate on her studies and get married to a good man who would respect her..She said he had praised her for remaining a virgin up till 21 and that he was proud of her , she said they had already made plans to come see her parents before they became intimate.
Not knowing he only had plans of making her a second wife at 22 years. She had to leave school because she was too heartbroken. She was with me until she put to bed last year July to a baby boy.
We managed to invite her mum who lives in Ondo and no other member of my family knows. I advised her to tell him to start up a business for her since her admission in school has been referred until we find a way to inform her dad properly.
She said he asked her what would happen if he spends all that money and she decides not to marry him.. Please what kind of a heartless man meets a young naive girl lies to her, makes her work for him without payment, gets her to abort her first pregnancy, deflowers her, makes her dropout of school and pretends to want to start up a family with her when he already has a one ,gets her pregnant the second time and wants her to abort again if not her insistence not to…
And still claims to love her??Please I really need your advice… am at my wits ends… I don’t know what to do.What can I advise my her to do???She’s disappointed and heartbroken,,,
She has a child out of wedlock for a married man.She’s lost everything she labored for… she doesn’t even want to live anymore. I can’t talk to anyone I know cos she has sworn me to secrecy…
Please she really needs help before she does something critical. I’ve tried counseling, I’ve tried ministers who insisted she should marry him since it’s biblical that a man must marry any woman he dis-virgins … but this man is heartless .I don’t want my sister with him
She can never be a second wife to any man. She’s too precious for that.Please just help me if you can. please overlook and forgive any typo error … am really stressed.I wanted to reassure myself I was giving the right counsel.
I don’t want her to have regrets later in life as a result of my personal beliefs. This man has refused to let her be, he has refused to let go.He calls incessantly, he doesn’t just want to give up, he believes they belong together.
How do I get him off her back?Can she accept financial assistance from him concerning her education since he made her stop initially?
How can she convince him to start up something for her at least for the security of her child?