I am currently having some difficulty in my marriage because of my husband’s family and their weird beliefs. We are Christians but his family attend a church that belief so may things are sin. Like for example,they do not agree to blood transfusion,CS and many other things.
So because of this,the family especially their dad refused to allow us get married. We dated for 5 years and they still refused. I told my husband,then,my boyfriend to leave me but he refused. He forced his parents to accept me.
Now,after marriage,they still want to control us. My husband believes some of their church doctrine but not all. I try not to quarrel about some of these things but it gets me angry so much. Throughout ,my first pregnancy,I prayed to God to let me have a normal delivery cos I know his people will not agree to CS.
As God will have it,my baby was so big and there was no option but CS. My husband was reluctant but I told my mother to sign for me if he refused to sign. When he saw my mother was going to sign,he now agreed. My baby weighed 5.4kg.
Because I gave birth through CS,my mother in-law never visited us. No one from his family came to see us. I felt bad but I am happy they are keeping their distance cos their negative energy is too much.
I also gave birth to my second child and again,it was through CS. My husband’s people are saying all kinds of weird things and I refuse to listen to them but I notice its affecting my husband. He used to say our children needs prayers because of the way they were born via CS…I say they do not need any prayers..nothing spiritual about CS.
This matter has been a subject of argument in our marriage. When the children don’t do well,maybe in school or something,my husband will say its cos of the fact that prayers have not been done for them.
The children are now 5 and 3. My husband has said no more children if its going to be by CS. That is fine by me,God has given me one boy,one girl. What else am I looking for.
The problem now is that , my husband is planning to take my children to their family church for prayers for years now but I have refused. That is causing quarrel in my marriage. They are calling me stubborn ,that I want to take over my husband. They say that is why they don’t want me to marry their son.
Now,my husband is saying I am proving that his family is right. That what is wrong in going for prayers in their family church? I do not like that idea. My church does not believe that. My husband sef does not go to church regularly…how on earth does he even believe that CS is spiritual and will affect my children?
How do I stop this rubbish. He says after the lock-down,he will take the children to their family church…insisting he is the head of the home that no one can stop him…what do I do to stop him and avoid him seeing me as trying to dominate him as the husband or head of our house?
Please advise me….
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