My name is Tega (Not real name). I need your advise. Please hide my ID. I am 28 years old and I have never been lucky in love. I grew up in a very rough environment and a very dysfunctional home.
My mother left me and my brothers with father who was never available. It was many years of trying to survive with our step mother and her horrible children. I got really exposed to all kinds of vices at an early age. I used to get involved in fights,petty stealing,lying and all sorts of vices.
One day,when I was 16,I was at my friend’s home when her father approached me to sleep with me and offer me money. I jumped at the offer cos I needed the money to feed. This man was my food ticket for almost one year until I got a boyfriend who took over from him at age 17.
I got pregnant at 17 and had an abortion. My boyfriend introduced me to prostitution and drugs. These were the dark days of my life for the next 3 years. A street preacher preached to me and that is how I changed my lifestyle. I had some money and went to learn hair dressing and beauty styling.
I met Mr. Chike,he was my boyfriend for 2 years. He was a married man so I was his mistress. His wife got to know and he dumped me.I met Jacob who promised to marry me after one year of dating. He eventually cheated and left me heartbroken. I was 25 years old. No love in my life. Every guy that came into my life just wants s*x and after a while,they leave.
Last two years,I decided to turn my life around and not date anyone until I am sure it will lead to marriage. For someone exposed to s*x at an early age, it was not an easy decision. Remember my friend that the father deflowered me at 16? She was getting married and reached out to me to come for her wedding. She wanted me to do her make up and hair cos I am very good at what I do.
I went to the wedding and that was how I met her brother,who is now a pastor. He was briefly married but his wife passed during a still child birth. He took a liking to me and I never gave him a chance for one bit but he kept on pursuing me. He is kind and smart and he is everything I need in a man.
Pastor U (I call him that for short) has helped me grow spiritually and I feel very loved for the very first time. The only problem is,he and his sister are not aware of the fact that their father was my lover for almost 1 year. Now,their father is old but very much aware of my relationship with his son.
Of course,he vehemently refused my marriage to his son. Called me a whore and a street brat. Pastor U has asked me to ignore him. But I fear that if he knows why his father is refusing our marriage,he will change his mind about me. What do I do? Do I walk away from Pastor U’s proposal or call the bluff of the father?
I have never enjoyed love in my life. Looks like I will never be able to find love cos my past may just be always there to catch up with me…if you are in my shoes,what will you…why do I always seem to attract the wrong men and the right one seems I cannot have…I need advise.