My late husband and I were not in good terms when he passed. I mean,he was odogwu (a chief) and as a wealthy and handsome 49 years old man,any woman in this town will do anything to have him. I never fooled myself to believe he would be faithful to me. After all,poor men are hardly faithful,not to talk to millionaires.
My husband took a second wife after I bore him four girls. He wanted a male son to carry his name.We were married for 15 years. He was married to his other woman for 6 years. She had 2 girls and 2 boys. After he got married,he hardly paid attention to me. I have not been intimate with him for 4 years until he passed on.
Well,he was providing for the girls but he and I never had much physical intimacy. I was no longer needed. The second wife was the queen cos she gave him sons. My husband passed after a short battle with kidney disease. We all mourned him and surprisingly,he left our house for me and the girls.
This man however left a condition that I could only lay claim to the house except I remained single. What a wicked man. The will also said if I remarried before my children are below 18, the children will be taken and raised by his elder sister who would manage their money until they were all 25 years of age.
My eldest child is 14. That means, I have to wait till another 4 years… I know its their father’s property and they deserve it but for me to remain single at 36 years old is impossible.I tired to contest this but it didnt work. Its been three years since my husband passed and I want to move on.
I recently started seeing someone who is serious about me. This man is ok but not well to do like that. My family wants me to continue to date cos they dont want me to be without a man but they dont want me to remarry so we do not loose the house and the children.
Now,this my relationship is getting serious ,he is talking marriage and I want to be married but my family has refused the idea of marriage. They are afraid I would loose everything coming from my late husband’s will for me and his children. They are afraid his his family finding out cos they would immediately kick me out.
I have been hiding my relationship but my man wants us to make it public and get married…I told him the conditions in my husband’s will but he ways I should not worry that he can provide for us and that after 4 years, the oldest of the children can come and stay with us. I cannot stay without any of my children…
The youngest is 9 years old. She will be 18 in another 9 years. What do I do? Is this how I will remain single until 9 years? Then I will be 45 years old? Who would want me by then? As I am even seeing this man,I know people will be talking and saying I am being wayward for seeing a man who I am not married to…
In my culture, its seen as immoral for a widow to be seeing another man who is not married to her…My parents want me to continue to keep this a secret…I really need advise..
Keep me anonymous.