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Covid-19 Lockdown:‘I Slept With My Landlord To Feed My Husband And Kids


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A Nigerian woman has taken to popular Facebook counselor, Vivian Valerian Raphaels to open on on what she did to feed her family during the lockdown.

According to her, she slept with her landlord to feed her husband and children.

She wrote;

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“Good evening ma. Hide my id please. My marriage is 10 years with 3 kids. My husband is 44years, 32 years. I beg you all dont blame me much😭😭😭😭. I just needed solutions on how to help myself, because I have started hating myself.

My husband lost his job last 2 years and since then, I have been feeding the house with my salary😭😭😭😭. I did something I never wanted to do on this Corona period. I dont have any money to cook anything at home and no one to talk to, no water for my children to drink.

We started drinking borehole water. I kept putting my account number on madam Cynthia give away post but I wasn’t lucky at all. Our land lord have been making advances at me for long and I ignored him.

My parents look up to me for help and I didn’t even give them anything at all. Me and my family stayed two days without anything and I left to ask my landlord for money to see if he can help me. All my neighbors I went to for help, nobody gave me anything. I lied to my husband let me go and see my brothers friend to know if she can help us.

My landlord wife and kids stay abroad.He lives two houses away from us. When I got to his place, he brought up the topic again and I told him that I cant do it, he promised to give me 20k free and some provisions. I know what I did is wrong and my conscience is killing me badly.

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I cant watch my three children cry anymore and I gave in and he refused he wont use protection. I have been asking God to forgive me. If they paid us in school where I teach before discharging us I wont have fallen into such. I am a shadow of myself now ma.

Three days ago, our compound people had meeting with him. Nepa people came to cut our light because of old bill we didnt settle. If you see the way he humiliated my husband because he gave his own suggestions, because he knows our situation😭😭😭😭😭I covered my face in shame. I wish I never did what I did. My husband is not on social media.

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Please help me post for advise.”


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Covid-19 Lockdown:‘I Slept With My Landlord To Feed My Husband And Kids
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  1. This is seriously serious.
    In as much we understand your situation, there is no excuse for fornication or infidelity.
    What if you conceive for him ?

    • It’s unfortunate that you gave into infidelity. No matter the situation, there is no excuse for it before God. And tell you what? It has it’s consequences. It diminishes you as a being and your spouse also has a share in it. That was why he humiliated your husband.
      The deed is done. What you need to do is ask for God’s mercy sincerely. Confess to God and ask for His forgiveness. That will lighten the burden in your heart. Then for your conscience to be truly free, tell your husband what you have done tearfully, asking for his forgiveness. Make sure you take adequate care of yourself medically to prevent both pregnancy and infection. I believe God will change the situation for both of you very soon and bring you out of that house for a better life in Jesus name. Amen

  2. I am not here to blame you or criticize you. You have done the deed already. The only reason you are asking for advice is because of your conscience. Your story is really touching and I must say it is incomplete. It is incomplete in the sense that, how do you move on from here, after spending the whole 20k? Have you found another solution to what caused this issue on ground? If you haven’t, then more problem is still coming for you.

    Forget about your guilt & regret for now, that one is between you, your conscience and your creator. First of all, find another means of where you will get cash once that landlord’s 20k finishes. Try your friends and neighbours again or think of another means of generating capital now that the lockdown has been partially eased.

    I’m telling you to do this now because if you and your family should become broke again, you will be forced to start thinking of meeting your landlord for help again. Desperate times usually calls for desperate actions. Don’t enter that desperate period again before finding an alternative solution to your problem.

    Once u have a solution in place, now to free your conscience, you just have to ask God for forgiveness. I don’t think you necessarily have to tell your husband. Unless you are sure that, telling him won’t destroy your family. Like I said earlier, this is between you and your creator. Ask God for forgiveness. Then with time, forgive yourself. It could be after a year or more before your guilty conscience will leave you but don’t worry, it will definitely leave when you finally forgive yourself. May God help you and your family.

    It is well with you !!!!

  3. This story is so disturbing to me, but the did is done! I want you to know that no matter what you have done, you can still get up and make it beyond every human reasoning or doubt.
    Infidelity or call it adultery is a great crime before God and to your husband as well nevertheless confess your sins to God and you will find peace of mind and heart, but for your husband you need to seek help from your Pastor if you have one on how to approach him,and if you don’t have a Pastor this an opportunity for you to have a family of God where you worship (Church) and have a genuine man of God who you can confide in,you need to give your life to Christ,sincerely you need Jesus Christ now.
    I pray for you,the Lord of heaven will have mercy on you and forgive you your sins,in Jesus name.

  4. Madam,

    You know this is all shades of wrong but to make things right,ask God to forgive you and let your husband know what happens.

    Of course he will be angry with you but he deserves to know. You can speak to a pastor or spiritual leader to help you manage the communication of this news to your husband.

    You may need to move out of that house as soon as possible. If you cannot afford a new place,find friends or family to put up with.

    In the meantime,you can do some petty trade to make some money for your family to live on.

    Do not resort to s*x to keep your family alive…God is faithful and He will provide.

    Even in these hard times,there are still things you can do to keep the soul and body together.

    Do not give up…everything will be alright.

  5. What you did was wrong, all you need to do is repent and confess to your husband. Stop seeing the landlord and God will help you.

  6. It’s not easy as everyone is dropping their advice. You are the one in the shoes. I won’t criticize you… But you need to find peace with yourself. And that his by opening up…. It’s not really easy what’s happening during this lockdown

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