To be candid,I need serious counseling. I have been a fool and my most price jewel is about to leave me. My wife and I have been married for 9 years. We both have a son that is 7 years. Having a second child would not be possible cos my wife has a condition but that is not an issue cos we are both happy with one child that God has blessed us with.
The problem started when I got promoted at work 3 years ago. I became branch manager of my bank. Life changed for us drastically. I began to get more busy…travel more and the luxury life came calling. I did not mean for it to happen but I sent less time at home cos of my work commitments.
My wife and I quarreled about this and I was not wise enough to hear her cry. I got involved with my secretary and my wife found out. That broke us bad. Even though I stopped the affair,trust was broken and my wife never ceased to remind me of my indiscretion.
The constant nagging kept me more and more away from home. Before I knew it,my wife filed for a divorce. I was angry. I apologized for my sins..why cant she move past it? I stubbornly signed the divorce papers. She moved out and I became so devastated and broken.
Still,pride did not allow me fight for my wife. At the beginning of this year,my wife started to date someone I know way back in school. This guy once contested SUG position with me and won. I lost and now,he is coming after my wife. The rage I feel was too much.My wife(I cant bring myself to call her my ex wife) says she didnt know him and I knew each other.
But this made me realise that I cannot loose my wife anymore. Not to this guy who once beat me in school. I have been begging my wife and she still loves me but she said she does not think I love her enough to fight for her..that means to do anything to win her back.
Women sha…I want to do anything to win her back. I been doing that…calling her…begging her everyday but she says I am doing it cos I dont want to loose to my school mate. Ok,I admit that is one issue but to be honest,I just realized that anger has clouded my eyes and I need my wife and son back.
I will not let her go like that. I need help and ideas. What do I do please…how do I win her back. She wants us to go to therapy. Please can you counsel us? What do we do…anything,I will pay…just anything…I have been an ass….I want to make things right…help me.
Please post this…she reads your blog…I want her to know I will do anything…and anyone with advise…I will be reading your comments.
Mr. F from Lagos
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