Good day ma’am,
I read a story similar to my situation here a few days ago. (Click here for that story). I am actually in a dilemma and I need advise. I am a Nigerian living in Ghana. This girl is my friend but she was living with a man in Ghana who promised to marry her but she discovered that he was lying to her.
The problem was that,she dropped out of school and followed this man to Ghana. He promised her heaven and earth. This girl told her family and friends that this man was rich and going to marry her and help her continue her school. On getting to Ghana,found out that the man was not even rich.
My friend trying to save face,continued to stay with this man who was a chronic womanizer. He made her abort several times. She eventually discovered that he was going to get married to a Ghanaian and when she asked him,he said he could never marry her cos she was an illiterate and not a Ghanaian.
My friend was devastated. This man eventually kicked her out. Instead of her to go back to Nigeria,she came to my place. I was shocked. I am in a relationship with another Ghanaian lady but we are not too serious. So when my friend came to me,I told her I could not accommodate her but she was crying,saying she has no where else to go and that she cannot face her parents after all she told them.
This girl begged me to allow her stay for one month,that she has some money,that she will look for a place to rent after and move out. She actually started making hair for people here in Ghana and people like her work. So I felt pity for her. I mean,I was her only family here in Ghana. I then had to lie to my girlfriend that I would be travelling for one month so she would not come and meet this girl here.
That is how this girl started living with me and right away,started to seduce me. I told her this was not the plan. She said it does not matter that,we are adults and its her way of paying me back for my kindness. She promised it was no strings. She said she does not love me…just s*x.
What I did not know is how good in s*x this girl is. She practically runs my brain mad and I have never been able to resist her. When the lock down came,it was s*x all through,more than 3 times a day. I knew I was sinking but could not help myself. She was like cocaine. I knew it was bad but since I tasted it..I became hooked and helpless.
One month later,she did not make any move to move out. I asked her to move,she used the lock down as excuse. My girlfriend was now calling to find out if I was back. I kept lying to her that the lock down held me back.
I do not know what I am going to do. I am stuck. This girl is a good cook,a good lover,good shape,beautiful,any man would love to have her. But I don’t know if this is a good idea. She told me not to date that Ghanaian girl,that Ghanaian are mean people. Well,from her experience,she could say that.
To be honest,I don’t know what I am doing. I don’t know if this is love or lust but I am so crazy about this girl. Sometimes I feel she has used something to jazz me. I keep lying to my girlfriend but I know its only matter of time before she finds out. What do I do,should I just break up with my girlfriend and stick with this girl?
What have I gotten myself into…part of me wants to flee cos I have never felt like this with someone….it feels dangerous yet very sweet…please what should I do?