My wife and I have been married for 2 years. We have been trying to build a family. Things are not as ok as I would want but I believe God will take care of us. My wife has been supportive,I thank God for her life. We were able to get a small Toyota corolla with money that she saved.
We have a baby of 9 months so most times,my wife is the one using the car. I jump boss from mainland to Island and its not easy at all. I have been praying to be able to save some money to get myself a car,even if its a small one. A car in Lagos is a necessity.
Two months ago,my wife received a promotion from her work. The promotion came with some benefits of course. My wife was told that she would be given a car too but they had not bought the car. My wife’s official car came in 2 weeks ago and it was a brand new 2015 Toyota camry.
I was so happy for her. She is very good at her job. And I was actually hoping to be able to use our smaller car now that we have a new car. But guess what,my wife sent the car to her father in Ibadan. She just told me in a flimsy way that she would give the car to her dad cos she promised to get him a car since his own broke down beyond repair.
Now,I was too shocked that my wife did not ask my opinion and she already made up her mind before telling me. I was hurt and so I told her to do whatever she likes. And truth be told,she sent the car to her father while I still jump 3 buses to work every day. I feel hurt cos she was not sensitive to my needs.
I know her father needs a car but in Ibadan,you can still move around easily without a personal car unlike Lagos. She knows how stressful it is for me. She knows how many times,my trouser has been torn in a bus or how many times,I got beat by rain yet she did not see it necessary to let me use the small car.
I dont blame her,its cos she bough the car with her money. I would never treat her like this and truth be told,I now know that it is bad if a wife has more money than the husband. My wife never treated me bad like this before the promotion. I am so bitter,I feel like telling her we need to go our separate ways.
Please advise me…how do I deal with this cos since last week,I have found it difficult to be around my wife. She thinks I am just sulking but she does not know the extent of my hurt. And that is even why it is so painful.
If my wife cannot see how important this is to me,if she would choose her family over me,why then should we remain married? Please advise…