Please I need your advise. My fiance and I have been together for almost 4 years. The first 2 years was actually long distance because I was in Ibadan at the time. I moved to Lagos where I have my business.
We done our introduction and our wedding was supposed to be this month of May but have moved it to September because of the pandemic. But something really bad happened last weekend and my fiance has called off our marriage,I need help.
Last week,I was at his place when his friend came to visit. They have been friends for over a decade and I see him more like a brother now cos of their relationship. So,we had a house party and everyone was lit. His Friend calls me sister B. I never for once saw him as anything but a brother.
Another of his friend also came around that Friday. My fiance actually asked me to make Asun,peppered chicken with cold drinks. We were all having fun,gisting,dancing and all. It was just a fun time. I had danced and twerked on my man and everyone was cheering.
At some point, Doug (My fiance’s friend),said to me:sister,excuse me dance. He was looking at my fiance and he gave a look of approval. We started dancing,he was cheering me,I tweaked on him and maybe it went too far but in all honestly,I never saw it as anything.
My fiance was not really looking at us or so I thought. Everyone twerks these days. I mean,its a common dance and twerking does not mean you want to have s*x with the person you are with. Especially not one you consider a brother.
We danced a little more before other things and we went to bed around 4am that day. I went to sleep drunk as was everyone else. Most of us woke up late on Saturday. When I woke up,my fiance had gone out. I started to clean up the kitchen cos it was a mess.
My phone buzzed with the sms sound. I checked and found an sms from Dough. It read:last night was da bomb,I couldn’t sleep cos your twerking left me with a hard on that I cant think straight. I was still dazzled at the text when I got a whatsapp image from him and it was a picture of his large hard rock c*ck.
My mouth dropped. I called him immediately and was like bro,wtf? What are you trying to do? He picked up and was just laughing. I was too furious to think. I went straight to the guest room where he was. My intention was to confront him and warn him not to ruin my relationship and his too with my fiance.
Dough was still too drunk cos as I trying to shout at him to stop this craziness,this dude was up feeling me and rubbing me with his c*ck. At this point,I was trying to free myself from his grip. I was also conscious of not shouting cos we had the other friend in the other room too.
I panicked. I should have screamed but I just kept pushing him away and whispering,stop it Dough,stop it and the fool kept saying:quit acting like you don’t want me. In that split second of craziness,my fiance walked in and saw me and Dough in a compromising position. Of course,Dough was gripping and pressing on me.
I was pushing but my fiance didn’t see that cos Dough had his back on him when he opened the door.My fiance thought we were making out cos I was not shouting. Dough quickly freed me and was trying to say rubbish,oh sorry bro. Nothing happened …we were just playing,nothing happened.
I left there feeling violated and feeling so upset. Went straight to our room cos Dough and my fiance were already fighting. I had to go wake up the other guy who came and tried to separate them. It was so embarrassing and I felt so bad.
Next thing,my fiance came at me,calling me a whore. Saying he couldn’t believe I would be messing with his best friend. I was like:are you for real? Your friend tried to force himself on me and you say I am messing with him? Why would I think of that? Even if I was messing with him,would it be in your house?
My fiance said he suspected from the way I was twerking on him yesterday. That I was the one who gave his friend approval to try to force himself on me. He said his friend said I was twerking and rubbing his manhood that he thought I was into him.
Dough blamed alcohol for his behaviour towards me. That I was the one who came to his room that morning after trying to turn him on during the dance last night. It was like a nightmare…I wished I could wake up from…I couldn’t believe this dude trying to frame me to my fiance.
I had to show my fiance the text and picture he sent,I was trying to caution him and ask him not to try that craziness with me,that was why I went to his room. My fiance was like,I should not have gone to his room and looking at it now,I should not have. But in all honesty and sincerity,I was not looking at it like that. I went there as his sister to warn him to stop that crap cos he was still laughing when I called his phone.
My fiance is so angry that he called off our marriage. I have begged and begged and he says he is done. That I broke up a relationship with his friend of over 12 years. He said he trusts his friend and that I actually led him on. What did I not say to try and defend myself. My fiance didn’t listen.
He threw my things out of his apartment.I was angry. I was begging him ..I also tried calling Dough to tell him the truth but he had left. I begged and begged. The more I begged,the more he humiliated me. Even his other friend begged but he seemed possessed. I had to get an Uber and moved my stuff to my place.
There is nothing I have not done to beg my fiance. My family is upset with me but they have even begged him,yet he says its over. I cannot keep begging him to marry me. I was not at fault. I never for one day had any feelings for Douglas his friend.
I always saw him as a brother hence even when he was feeling me that morning,I didn’t want to shout so he would not get into trouble yet I am being blamed for not shouting cos I wanted it.
I am tired. I love my fiance. I do not know what else to do to save my relationship. He has deleted all our pictures together on social media. My heart is aching from heartbreak. I have been embarrassed,humiliated,called a whore and all sorts when I did nothing. I need advise,please advise me.