Good day ma,
Please hide my identity. I am a single mother who fell for a man with sweet mouth.My baby daddy was busy sleeping with me and many other ladies. I found out I was not the only one with him after i waited for him for 4 years and no marriage. I decided to move on.
I have been on my own for almost 2 years but I must admit that its not been easy being single and no man in my life. It makes me go back to my baby daddy once in a while. I briefly dated a guy last year but we broke,he did not want a serious relationship. Well,I was done playing games,I am not getting any younger so I told him to move on.
My prayers have been that God should send me a man that would love me and my son and marry me and be good to me. That is why I have not really gotten any serious person to date.
Anyway,I met my man towards end of December last year. He seemed like a decent man. We met in church. I had just started this church 2 months ago …He seemed like a very dedicated Christian and when he approached me for relationship,I said yes.
To be honest,he is a good man. He treats me with respect and loves my son. He said he will not ask me for s*x until marriage. I told him no problem even though I found it hard to resist him. I mean,I am not the type of girl to wait but if a man says we should wait,then I will try …I do not want to be seen as a wayward girl.
He has met my parents and we plan to have a formal marriage introduction this month. So,our relationship is going fine. I really thank God for bringing such a good man to me but during the lock down,we started kissing. It was not easy to resist because we were spending so much time together. I wanted him badly so I changed my mind and decided to SEDUCE him any chance I got.
Well, he could not resist long enough. From kissing,we began to make love. And that is where the problem started. I found out two main problems: one.he cannot last long in bed. Before I say jack …he has jacked off. That is not my kind of experience ….I want a man that can last at least an hour or 45 minutes of good time.
Secondly,he refuses to give me a head. But I give him a head and he does not object. I asked him why,he says its not right for a man to give a woman a head because that can ruin the man’s destiny. I told him that is bullsh*t.
Since then,we have not been intimate. I tried to tell him that his belief is not based on anything but he wont listen. When I even suggested he take some drugs to help him last longer,he refuses…I have been doubting my relationship now.
Its just that I am afraid of being single again. This man loves me and has promised me marriage. He is a good father figure for my son too. He really takes care of me but he is very inexperienced in the bedroom and he does not like when I tell him that. I tried to talk to him about that but he said we should not even be intimate until we are married.
I cannot wait till marriage to make love.Do not judge me but I am an adult that likes love making very well. And that is why I feel he will not be able to satisfy me when we get married if he refuses to talk about his inexperience in bedroom matters. I think he is embarrassed I seem to know more than him on this subject matter. And his ego is not letting him find solution.
I am in a dilemma. Like I said,he is a good man and takes care of me and my son. But what if we are not sexually compatible in the long run? Please what do you advice?
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