My story is that of me and my sister,Ugonma (Not real name). She has always been that pretty sister that got more the attention while we were growing up. She got alot of suitors when we were younger and she got married at the age of 22.
Her marriage was not successful as she cheated on her husband several times. The poor man realized that my sister could not be tamed after countless fights and family intervention could not help. One wondered why she even got married in the first place.
The marriage finally fell apart after 4 years. The marriage produced 2 boys: 3 & 2 years old. My sister abandoned the boys with their father who could not take care of them. The family decided that the children be left with me while their father send money for their up keep.
Being unmarried,I did not mind but I noticed taking care of these children made dating difficult for me. You see,our parents passed on 11 and 12 years ago and my siblings naturally look up to me as the eldest. We were disappointed in my sister’s behavior because she cheated on her husband and ran away with a so called rich man.
Ugonma’s husband’s job made it impossible to take care of two young kids alone. His family lives very far in Kogi and we all agreed it was best to keep the child close to family here in Lagos. I love my sisters children like my own and they began to call me mummy soon enough.
Their father and I became closer because of this and even though we did not plan this,we developed feelings for each other. This man is a good man. We tried to keep our feelings in check but it was so difficult.
He eventually approached my family elders for my hand in marriage and even though they were shocked,they gave their blessings. My sister did not care when I told her I was with her ex- husband. The only problem is his family. They feel my sister put their son through so much and they do not support our marriage.
My sister’s ex husband does not mind if his family does not give their blessings because he is made up his mind. But I do not feel comfortable. His mother actually thinks I am trying to charm the son the same way my sister married him and disgraced him by cheating several times.
How do I make them change their mind about me? I do not want my marriage to break up my man and his family. I have tried to engage them in a discussion,especially his mom but she does not want to even talk to me.
I need advise…what should I do?
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