I hope I can get objective suggestions here for the only woman I have truly loved. I am at a cross road here. I am a 34 year old man,doing very well for myself. I have been in love with Raima (not real name) for over 8 years. We met while I was on holidays from school and since then,my life changed.
The thing is,my parents are preachers so I am a preacher’s kid. But Raima is not the same religion as me (I do not want to name any religion because I do not want to call names). Raima and I were initially just very close friends until feelings began to develop.
We both knew that being together was impossible because of our religions but we could not stay away. We have dated and broken up several times. We have dated other people but we realize we are only happy with each other.
We have had conversations about either one of us to convert to the other person’s religion. I want her to convert to mine and she wants me to convert to hers. That is where the problem is. Trust me,we have argued back and forth about this and ended up breaking up several times because of this, then comin back again.
Two years ago,I finally gave in. I decided to stop doing all these cat and mouse thing. I let her go and promised never to come back to her again. We did not speak to each other for almost two years until 4 months ago. She lost her brother in a ghastly car accident. She called me crying and I knew how close she is to her brother.
Raima was depressed for weeks. Could not eat or sleep. I had to be there for her. She then came to my place,just to chill and forget about the pain that the loss of her brother was causing her.All I wanted to do was to comfort her and be there for her. But my feelings could not stand it.
Raima was in a vulnerable state and I too. We made love several times and got back to right where we were before our break up. Maybe because of the state Raima was in,she was not taking her pills and that is how she got pregnant. My beautiful Raima is pregnant for me. It was not planned but I love her so much.
The thing is,she wants to keep my baby and I want nothing more than for her to keep it but her family will never accept her marrying me without me converting. And they will kill her for having a baby without being married. Raima is devastated even much more. She is begging me to pretend to convert so her parents can allow us marry but I feel that is betraying my family and my faith.
Its been one hell of a decision to make. She has given me until end of this week to decide or she will terminate the pregnancy. Yes,it feels like shit. If I did not know how it happened, it feels like God and my woman are testing me…I am torn and really do not know what to do. Should I pretend to convert? Just to save my baby?
I need your objective advise please….
Anonymous Email Post