I really want to remain anonymous because the person I am writing about is an avid reader of your blog. She introduced me to blog and I read the articles and advice you and the readers give everyday. That is why I want you to post this so she can read it and see that I am serious
So,I moved into my apartment last year,specifically in February last year. It was a major upgrade for me,from my one room face me I face you,I moved into a 2 bedroom self contain in Magodo estate (name has been changed for this story). I had a girlfriend whom I was in a relationship with for almost one and a half year.
But soon as I met Gina (not real name), my neighbor in one of the other apartments, I lost my mind and it was like magnet. We met and introduced ourselves and I was truly captivated by her smile and beauty.
Gina is a single lady of 42 while I am 34 but she has the body and looks of a 25 year old beauty queen. I did not mean to but we became friendly. I knew she liked me because it was obvious I was flirty with her and she did not reject my advances.
I found out that she was in a relationship too but the guy is married or separated but that did not stop the chemistry between Gina and I . She invited me to her apartment for dinner and she is an excellent cook I must say. I wanted to know why she was not married…why being stuck with a man who is not really available?
Gina confessed that finding the right man has been a challenge. Men she dated just wanted her for s*x or were married…others felt threatened by her status,etc. She decided marriage was not for her,so she just sleeps with the guy,for her sexual needs.
Well,that night was unforgettable for me. I have never made love to any woman like Gina. She is extraordinary. I knew I wanted her. That was how our relationship started. We practically moved into her place. My girlfriend found out about us and she broke up with me. Gina also broke up with her dude.
I know,I was wrong but the attraction and love for Gina is real and strong. I have never been this happy in my life. Gina gives me peace of mind,the s*x is great,conversation is great,we laugh a lot,we spend all our time when not working together. We spend all weekend with each other.
We met her family last December. Her parents are like the coolest. Her father even invites me to have drinks with him sometimes even though I have not had the time to. My sister and elder brother have spoken to Gina on the phone and they are cool with her.
Seeing how things have gotten serious with us,I have been talking marriage to Gina but she says marriage is not in her plan anymore. That she cannot marry me because of my age. She feels that the 7 year gap between us is too much.
All my efforts to convince her is falling on deaf ears. We both love each other but Gina feels that things might change in future if we both get married.Her reasons are simply unreasonable but she has refused to listen to me.
She feels she will age faster because of the age gap and that she may not be able to have children because she is already experiencing menopause. She feels me and my family will hate her if she does not give birth.
Much as I know I would have children with Gina,to me,if we did not have any child,I am completely fine. I do not care also if she ages faster than me or if her looks change afterwards.
That was when Gina confessed that she had plastic surgery years ago. Well, that explains why she looks as sexy and curvy. I really do not mind. Her personality is sweet enough for me. She then mentions that she had a bad abortion,that could mean, she would never be able to have a child and she has accepted that.
To me,Gina is just giving me all the excuses to throw me off from my decision to marry her. I have agreed to be with her even with her reasons. Yet, she is not convinced. Do you know Gina broke up with me two weeks ago? She said she cannot continue to lead me on knowing she does not want marriage but I want marriage. She wants me to move on.
How else am I supposed to convince Gina? She knowing I will keep trying to convince her,Gina moved out of her apartment and has been staying somewhere for the last two weeks. Her rent expires soon and I suspect she may not want to renew so she can stay away from me.
I have begged her,prayed for her…done everything I can just to show her that she can give me a chance but she does not want me. Now,I am feeling like there is more she is not saying to me. I am even wondering if she truly loved me? Was this just about s*x for her? Did she try to seduce me for nothing?
I really do not want to believe she used me and dumped me. I want to believe her feelings for me are genuine. I spoke to her mother about my intentions and asked her t beg Gina for me. Her mother agrees that the age difference is a concern but she promised to talk to Gina for me.
I could have any woman I want today. I even left my ex for her..But I have experienced mature and loving relationship…why can’t that happen?
Gina is also a grown independent woman. I am not sure anyone can convince her on anything if she does not want to be convinced. She sent me a text that she has moved on with her former dude… She probably said that to make me feel jealous or enraged, so I can leave her alone…
What else should I do? Should I really move on? Please advise me.
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