We Had A Secret Affair Once But Its Getting Very Difficult To Hide Our Feelings
I need your advise. My name is Helen(not real name). I am 42 years old widow. My husband passed away last year from Cancer. He was diagnosed two years ago, we did everything but he eventually passed.
My late husband was 10 years older than me and even before he was diagnosed, he and I were having issues with our s*x life. He had erectile dysfunction. I tried to manage the situation but it was very difficult for me.
I had an affair with my husband’s business partner, David (not real name). But David’s then girlfriend found out and threatened to tell my husband so we ended things. But after my husband passed last year, David and I rekindled our love.
What we both feel for each other is very strong. David’s girlfriend is now his fiancée but he says he has no intention of marrying her cos he wants to be with me. When David broke up with her, she got very upset and is threatening to tell everyone that David and I were sleeping together when my husband was alive and sick.
She is even saying that she will tell people that I killed my husband so I can be with David. My husband died of cancer complications, I did not kill him, but this woman is trying to destroy me just because David chose me over her.
David told her to go to hell…but I am worried that people might believe this woman’s lies cos you know Africans, they like to blame a woman for everything like the death of her husband. I told my mother about us and she quickly discouraged me, saying I should break up with David, that its too soon and because of David’s closeness to my late husband, people will talk.
I told David to move on but he says he cant. Frankly speaking, its hard for me too. I want him so bad, so now, we are hiding our relationship. I told David to relocate with me so we can be together without hiding but he says he cant leave his business.
So we have been keeping our relationship a secret and praying his ex does not come out to say all the lies she threatened to tell about me. But its getting harder to hide and I am terrified of being discovered ,then it would really look like I am guilty of bad things like cheating on my husband with his business partner and causing his death so we can be together.
Now, I might be pregnant. My period has been late for a month. But I am so scared of taking a pregnancy test cos I really feel pregnant. David has said he wants to marry me when I told him I suspect I am pregnant. He does not want us to have our baby outside wedlock.
David does not think we should continue to hide our relationship. He says we have nothing to fear cos we did nothing wrong but he is a man, no one will blame him but me, the woman is always at fault…. Its even barely one year after my husband’s passing…
How do I hide a pregnancy? How do I hide my love for David any longer…how do I explain to my family and my children that I am getting married so soon without raising suspicion?
Please advise me…what should I do about this? I am confused…
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