How I Watched My Husband Crumble Our Marriage-Husband Responds (I Was Only Trying To Help
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This is my own side of the issue. I dated my wife for almost three years and I was faithful to her. I also supported her when she started planning to go abroad for further study. As God will have it, her admission came and we decided we should get married so that she can go ahead and make a way for me to join her later.
I never imagined in my life that I would ever cheat on my wife. I am someone who advocates for loyalty in marriage. I guess when she left in February, I started working late in the office just to avoid going to an empty home.
I missed my wife. I tried to speak to her everyday but I also missed holding her,smelling her skin next to mine. I pleasured myself just to keep my mind off the urge I felt . I was doing good for myself until sometime around May when a colleague of mine started to confide in me her marital problems.
This lady is married to someone who beats her,cheats on her and ignores her emotional needs. I did not ever fancy her as attractive. When she spoke to me, another colleague of mine was sometimes there. We all comforted her and encouraged her to leave to find peace of mind.
Working late one day as usual, I noticed she did not want to leave the office. I probed and probed before she finally told me that her husband threw her out of the house and warned that any family member that took her in will pay for it.
So her plan was to sleep in the office toll she could sort herself. I asked her if she had no friend…she said only one friend and that the lady just relocated to Benin. I felt so sorry for her. That was when I offered her my place as a temporary place. I thought my wife would have done the same.
She followed me home and stayed in my guest room. She stayed in my place from May to July before we made a mistake. That day was a Saturday. She had gone to try to speak with her husband but he ended up beating her so bad that she was lucky to get away from him.
I was furious and at the same time thought we were more like friends now, so I hugged her to comfort her and one thing led to another and we made love. I am very ashamed to say this but it was a big mistake. We both felt so bad after doing it. But she told me not to feel bad cos it was her own way of helping me fill the absence of my wife.
That sounded not right…but I told myself I was only passing time. I knew it was cheating but I could not resist this lady every day after a stressful day at work. The chemistry was strong. I felt guilty after each time. I have no excuse..it was very poor judgement on my part.
I was weak…I was drawn by my lust. I would try to resist her for days but ended up back in her bed…and that is how my wife discovered my foolishness. I did not know my wife was still on the zoom call…my network went bad and I thought we were both off the call. Immediately, this lady came to me and we made love.
My wife saw everything…I later found out and my heart was like someone put a dagger through my heart. To tell you how bad I have been…I have even stopped going to work. This lady has moved out of my place to her village since no one wants to accommodate her.
This lady has also tried to beg my wife…begging her not to blame me …that I am a good man..that she was at fault …that I was only trying to help but loneliness and pain drove both of us to sin against her. But my wife is so hurt and rightly so.
I am only begging her to give me another chance. I know she has no reason to trust me anymore. I only feel like this mistake would have been avoided if my wife did not leave me to study shortly after our wedding. But I only wanted to support her ambitions…did I do wrong for encouraging her to travel and pursue her dreams?
Many would say her absence was no reason to misbehave….agreed but I was lonely and weak and I was only trying to comfort someone was going through a lot. All these reasons make no sense I know but that is all I have to say.
Please help me beg my wife. I love her more than anything in the world. I know I betrayed her trust…but I am willing to do whatever it takes to restore my marriage. Anything…please advise me..advise us…please beg her for me…
I am begging…tell me what to do…I will do it…
Thank you ma
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