How Do I Choose A Husband: S*xy Husband Versus Calm Husband
I want my story to be anonymous. I moved into a private hostel in my final year in school so I could get some privacy to study for my finals. That was when I met Jack and his cousin, James .(Not real names). They were sharing the other mini flat in the private hostel I was in.
Jack and James were cool dudes, they had their cars and girls on campus flocked around them. As neighbors, we became friendly and they would sometimes give me a ride to school. James was in the same faculty as me, Social Sciences, so I rode with him most times.
I began to secretly like Jack but he had a girlfriend and girls were always around him. So,I kept my feelings in check. After school and after service year, I stayed in touch with they guys. After service year, through James’ family connection, I got a job in a big bank in Lagos.
James later asked me out and we dated for like a year. He treated me very well and I loved the idea of making it permanent with him one day. And James proposed to me, I said yes. When Jack heard about our engagement, he congratulated us on social media but he came to visit me to tell me not to marry his cousin James.
It turns out Jack said he has been in love with me since university finals. And that James, who is now my fiancé is aware that he is in love with me…but he was also in love…so James begged him to allow him woo me.
That was why Jack pretended not to pay attention to me and to distract himself, he dated other girls to try not to focus on me. But seeing me ending up married to James is killing him. He wants to let me know his feelings before I marry James.
As I said, I liked Jack too from school but I felt he did not notice me like that. Not knowing he was deliberately avoiding me. I told Jack I loved him too and that led him to kiss me. I should have stopped him right there but my brain refused to activate or listen to me,
After making love with Jack, I knew I was wrong and decided to break up with James. James asked me if I was breaking up with him cos of Jack,I could not lie,I said yes. James begged me not to leave him,he cried. He said he is willing to do anything. I told him I slept with Jack and he said he forgives me.
Not that I needed any forgiveness but James did not get worked up that I slept with cousin…who loves me and I love too. I love James as well. Now,I am confused. None of these men want to back down. They both want me…and they both are trying hard to convince me…
My resistance fails me whenever I am with Jack…with James…I feel so much love from him…yet I cannot stop thinking about Jack as well. I am trying to decide which of the men I love more before it gets messier James refused to cancel or postpone our wedding…he says I have until a week before the wedding to choose.
The wedding getting closer…help me make a decision…James is cool, calm and sweet gentleman…He will make a good husband no doubt…his demeanor and patience is very good.
Jack is sweet and s*xy . He sets my emotions on several types of fire…This is such a mess…I need advise on how to choose. I sometimes wish I can keep both of them cos they both have qualities I want in a man in different degrees…Jack even jokingly said if I don’t choose him, he will still keep trying woo me (no insults please).
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