I Made A Marriage Promise But I Am Sorry: I Have To Break My Promise
Where do I even start from? I need advise…I feel stuck in my relationship and at cross roads. It started when I lost my parents 14 years ago. Uncle UK (not real name) was my father’s best friend and he immediately took me and my siblings like our god father. He was there to support and advise us after the passing of our parents.
I was in my final year. God helped me and I graduated. Uncle UK’s second daughter was a jambite (fresh university graduate) when I noticed her. It was love at first sight. She was always in boarding school before now. I told Uncle UK that I liked Nengi(not real name) He gave his blessings but said I have to wait until she graduates.
I supported Nengi with my meager youth corper allowee up to when I got a job as a Teacher for almost 3 years. Nengi’s mother though was not comfortable with our relationship. She would have loved for Nengi to marry someone richer. And she poisoned Nengi’s mind against me.
Two years ago,I lost my Teaching job. I actually resigned cos I was not getting paid for months. I decided to try out my own business. I love catering so I started with making small chops and making deliveries. Nengi and her mother felt ashamed of me.
Nengi’s father was sick at the time, he called me and made me promise marry Nengi no matter what. I told him I had my doubts but he said I should not worry, that he would talk to Nengi…I said ok but Nengi wouldn’t listen to her father… I wished her well and moved on. Nengi’s father passed on a few months later.
Its been two years now. I am doing well for myself. I own 3 small chops and grill outlets in this city and I live very comfortably with a 2018 Toyata Highlander. I am in a relationship now with a lady. (Though its not that serious) Nengi called me a few days ago,asking me for another chance. She said she received a prophesy that I am her husband and that if she married anyone else..they would die and she would be a widow.
Also that she keeps dreaming of her dead father telling her that I am her husband and should marry someone else. Reminding me of the promise I made to her father to marry her…Right now, I do not trust Nengi cos I have seen her love for material things. Now, that I am well to do,she wants to come back?
If you were in my shoes,what will you do? My siblings want me to marry Nengi cos of her late dad and the promise I made to him but my heart is not 100% with Nengi. She never really loved me when I had nothing…I do not think its right to love me now that things have changed…
Promise or no promise…this does not feel right….what then do I do about the promise I made to her father….can I forsake it ? Please advise cos everyone is saying I cannot forsake it….that Uncle UK will not rest in his grave if I do not fulfil his wishes. Can this be true? What can I do about it?
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