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I Made A Marriage Promise But I Am Sorry: I Have To Break My Promise

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I Made A Marriage Promise But I Am Sorry: I Have To Break My Promise

Dear Jzhane,

Where do I even start from? I need advise…I feel stuck in my relationship and at cross roads. It started when I lost my parents 14 years ago. Uncle UK (not real name) was my father’s best friend and he immediately took me and my siblings like our god father. He was there to support and advise us after the passing of our parents.

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I was in my final year. God helped me and I graduated. Uncle UK’s second daughter was a jambite (fresh university graduate) when I noticed her. It was love at first sight. She was always in boarding school before now. I told Uncle UK that I liked Nengi(not real name) He gave his blessings but said I have to wait until she graduates.

I supported Nengi with my meager youth corper allowee up to when I got a job as a Teacher for almost 3 years. Nengi’s mother though was not comfortable with our relationship. She would have loved for Nengi to marry someone richer. And she poisoned Nengi’s mind against me.

Two years ago,I lost my Teaching job. I actually resigned cos I was not getting paid for months. I decided to try out my own business. I love catering so I started with making small chops and making deliveries. Nengi and her mother felt ashamed of me.

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Nengi’s father was sick at the time, he called me and made me promise marry Nengi no matter what. I told him I had my doubts but he said I should not worry, that he would talk to Nengi…I said ok but Nengi wouldn’t listen to her father… I wished her well and moved on. Nengi’s father passed on a few months later.

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Its been two years now. I am doing well for myself. I own 3 small chops and grill outlets in this city and I live very comfortably with a 2018 Toyata Highlander. I am in a relationship now with a lady. (Though its not that serious) Nengi called me a few days ago,asking me for another chance. She said she received a prophesy that I am her husband and that if she married anyone else..they would die and she would be a widow.

Also that she keeps dreaming of her dead father telling her that I am her husband and should marry someone else. Reminding me of the promise I made to her father to marry her…Right now, I do not trust Nengi cos I have seen her love for material things. Now, that I am well to do,she wants to come back?

If you were in my shoes,what will you do? My siblings want me to marry Nengi cos of her late dad and the promise I made to him but my heart is not 100% with Nengi. She never really loved me when I had nothing…I do not think its right to love me now that things have changed…

Promise or no promise…this does not feel right….what then do I do about the promise I made to her father….can I forsake it ? Please advise cos everyone is saying I cannot forsake it….that Uncle UK will not rest in his grave if I do not fulfil his wishes. Can this be true? What can I do about it?

 

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I Made A Marriage Promise But I Am Sorry: I Have To Break My Promise
Jzhane
A passionate people and godly relationship advocate!...Trained Psychologist and Human Resources Practioner. A seasoned Marriage and relationship counsellor. A mother, wife, sister, friend and daughter. J

5 COMMENTS

  1. Leave that promise. Nothing will happen…

    What do you want for yourself should be the in thing and not what Nengi and her family want for you

  2. Bia nna,if I were you I would have broken it into pieces since sef,there is more to marriage than you think. Nengi’s father will not live with you in the house ooooo,you better tell Nengi to stay on her lane and maintain her champion asap.But come to think of it sef all these girls called Nengi sef,naso Ozo bbnaija see shege for Nengi hand.It is well,but make sure you pray very well for yourself so she doesn’t start being diabolic.

  3. Abeg forget that Nengi of a girl n look for love somewhere else,who is real,becos that Nengi is not real at all. Becos the real Nengi will emerge leta, after the marriage so please be very wise n choose wisely. One thing u need to is that even God doesn’t choose a wife or a husband for u,he only said u should choose n bring for him to bless,so forget that prophecy of that my pastor said, it doesn’t work like that. For ur heart n do what is right.

  4. Your happiness comes first please… Do what you think is right… Nengi is a No No for me…

    Her father is dead and there’s nothing like he wouldn’t rest in peace…You already told your godfather before he died that you ain’t sure about marrying her and that’s it…

    Nengi would leave you a thousand time if anything bad comes up in your business…That girl is just in for your mula just like Bbn Nengi hopped into ozo’s car when he won the innoson task despite the fact that she has been shenking ozo all this while…

  5. What I will tell you is that you should pray about it and inquire from two or three men of God, so what the three of them say or two among the three is the truth

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