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I Have Feelings For Him: Should I Make The First Move?-Please Advise.
Good morning sir/ma,
Nice job you guys are doing, I am posting for a friend, she is a new member. It goes thus:
I am 27yrs old lady, staying in Enugu (not real location), I always find it difficult loving any guy that approach me for relationship. Now there’s this guy I have been secretly loving for almost 2yrs now…
Though I have able to keep my feelings under control, since we were casual friends, he have been inviting me to his place but I normally decline with one reason or the other. But around June this year, I visited him cos of something he borrowed from me and I need to get back.
From the way he behaved maturely that day, I see myself loving him more.. From then onwards I visits him occasionally though on his invitation and it progressed to once a week etc. When I couldn’t hold the feeling again, I told him that I love him and to my surprise, he said he have actually loved me since 2yrs now but he doesn’t know how to say it.
Though since then, I have seen a bit of improvement in his show of affection. But he has not asked me out for any official relationship. But am worried what it might be because I voiced out my feelings first.
My question is this.. If a lady voiced out her feelings for a guy first, will it change the way the guy sees her? Does it have any effect on the relationship? Does it degrade the lady by doing that?
Am thinking maybe I should forget about him and move on or if I should ask him, what his intentions are towards me, will it degrade me in his eyes?
Please, I need your candid advice.
Anonymous Lively Stones Whatsapp Member