How My Promising Relationship Turned Into Shame-Pls Advise
Good day ma,
Please please I am in need of advise. I was in a relationship with a guy, he told me he wanted something serious. He stopped every connection I had with friends. He is was always with me 24 hours a day. Even when I am at work.
I am an ND holder but right now, I am learning work. With the way he was, I had to take him to see my dad and my dad agreed and said due to the corona virus there will be no introduction he gave him marital list and ask him to go ahead with preparations.
My mistakes was, I got pregnant and my beautiful life turned around from the day I knew. My sweet boyfriend changed he stopped visiting and I told him I wanted the baby out he agreed and took me to his nurse I went twice for abortion .
I couldn’t get it out it didn’t work my boyfriend said a friend of his who is a seer has warned him against death so he wont try again I had to get my mum involved am from a polygamous family my mum and dad are no longer together I live with my mum when I told her she pleaded with me not to try it again.
She said I will be with her till I give birth my boyfriend also agreed. That, I stay at home he always come around my mum asked him not to stress himself he should assist anyway he can. It has been up and down till fast forward to on 22.
We had issues again he came around and was saying he didn’t know what he did to me that I am always angry we quelled again and he left I felt bad and decided to call him I called him all through the night he refused to pick on 23 morning.
I decided to go to his place i haven’t been der since the early weeks of my pregnancy I went I knocked he came out and refused to open the gate I knew someone was inside I left to avoid embarrassment this is a house we went to look for together most of the things inside the house are mine.
I went to his parents house I was told by his younger sis that their mum is not around. I left we use to go to his parents place together but since I got pregnant he has refused to take me der and I didn’t want to force myself on him.
I was at our family house wen i saw a girl come to me and start saying she is in a relationship wit my boyfriend they live together she was inside when I came to the house that my boyfriend told her we are not together any longer.
That she was surprised to see me in his house that very morning and she has been hearing rumors that a girl is pregnant for him I stood up from were I was sitting to show her myself and she said my boyfriend said he is not d owner of my pregnancy. This was said in the present of my whole family both extended and all my little joy in my life died that very minute.
The embarrassment was too much for me alone. My mum was angry and called him that she dose not want him close to our home again wen he called i asked him never to call me again and till now he didn’t call. I feel as if we gave him an easy way out but my mum is saying I should let him be and concentrate on my baby.
I don’t know how I cant think straight, I am ashamed of my existence. Even my mum is upset with me. Now I feel so alone I don’t know how I am going to face the responsibility alone he hasn’t even brought the baby things he told me he bought and I have few months left to give birth my heart is heavy pls advise me.
I am sorry for the long story ma. The girl also said my boyfriend is making preparations to go nd see her people they are already planning their marriage.