NO DINNER FOR YOU TO NIGHT
I had a quarrel with my wife yesterday morning. She was angry with me and I was also very angry with her. I tried to tell her what she did was bad, and all I wanted was for her to accept corrections.
She in turn had her own reasons for doing what she did, and she blames it on me for making her do what she had done. Not until I accept my own mistake, she was not ready to accept hers.
We shouted vehemently at each other before I left the house. I had no time to listen to her anymore, as I was already tired of exchanging words and as such, I was already running late for work.
While walking away she said to me.
“Come back here. So you are now running? Keep running. Run and I will be here waiting for you. But just know there will be no dinner for you. In fact, I won’t cook for you anymore.”
“Who even wants to eat your food? I will not eat.” I fired back at her angrily before driving off.
That day after work, while driving home, I thought to myself. Hence she was not going to be cooking for me, I in turn decided to stay back late and not eat. I stopped by at a friends house and we got talking for a while. He was married and his wife had also become a very good friend of my wife.
They asked me what had happened and why I had refused going home. I explained things to them. I told them about the fight I had with my wife that morning, and how she had failed to see things my way. We laughed over it. They tried to advise me to go home, but I noticed they were also careful not to take sides.
I later returned home by 10pm that night. Although I was no more angry, I had prepared myself for the worst.
When I got back home I found my food long served on the dining. It was still warm. I was famished and walked to the plates already salivating. When I opened them the aroma of a sweetly cooked vegetable soup welcomed me. I didn’t waste anytime. I immediately sat down and began to eat.
While eating my wife appeared behind me. She wrapped her arms around my neck and whispered in my ears.
“Thought you said you will not eat my food again.”
Just then it struck me. How we say things we don’t mean out of anger. How we promise things we can’t keep just because we needed to make those promises. I had to cover my small shame, so I raised my head and stared into her eyes.
“Thought you said you won’t cook for me again.”
“You know I always do. You just didn’t want to understand me. You were so annoying.” She said
She sat beside me and explained in a better way. I understood with her. I realised I also had a fault. Probably the vegetable soup I was eating was now re arranging my head to factory settings. I apologised for failing to understand her earlier. She also apologised too
So many relationship have shattered because of the lack of understanding and ego between both parties.
So many words which have been said out of anger, have also been taken seriously
I have come to understand that the ability of partners to understand themselves, determines when quarrels are being resolved.
Don’t let a night pass without you resolving a fight between you and your partner. If one partner refuses to drop his or her ego, drop yours and make peace.
It is the first step to reconciliation.