If Cheating Is Normal For All Men-How Do I Keep My Marriage Going?
I have evidences that my husband of 11 years is having extra marital affairs. It hurts. I first discovered in march 2019 with a lady on our street in the estate we stay. I asked him then but it got all messy and I experienced domestic violence with him.
People (families on both sides) intervened then, but to my shock, I was told :you don’t ask a man why he was cheating …its normal in this part of the world! that i should just face the care for my children and make myself happy with them.
Since then, I tried to manage information I have about him still cheating on me with other women. In fact, I am advised to look away anytime he goes on the supposed adventures, I was told its mid-life crisis that I should keep praying for him. I am trying to but, it is not easy for me.
I am beginning to think of considering a friend to be intimate with as well. He has been there all through this experience. He is still there, but I try to set boundaries between us physically. However, my husband’s actions and the way he rubs his affairs with women( now I have evidence of two other ) on my face, it is really getting to me.
What do I do? Should I just let sleeping dogs lie so as not to incur another beating or should I ask him. ( I asked in the most gentle manner the first time, but he became so defensive even to the extent of beating me up)
I am just quiet at home, I am not happy and it’s telling on my relationship with my children.
What’s the best advice:
1)look away and keep praying for him in this midlife crisis .
2) play along with “my friend” too or
3) try talking about the issue again with him(hubby)?
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