My Life Will Be Worthless If I Don’t Run Away From My Husband-Pls Advise
I am faced with a hard decision. My name is Shayo (not real name). I am 23 years old. But I look older than my age because of my situation. Married with a son. I got married not on my own will but it was the choice I had to make. I was married off by my dad to a man old enough to be my father, more than three times my age.
I lived with my aunty since I was 10 years old. My mother had me as a single mother. She claims she does not know my father but I think she is lying. So, for her to remarry, she left me with her elder sister since.
My aunty and her family never forget to remind me how much of a burden I was to them. I stopped school at age 16, SS 2. No money for WAEC. I became full time sales girl in my Aunty’s canteen. That was where I met my husband. He was a regular customer.
He took a liking to me and promised me that he will sponsor me if i married him. At age 18, I married this man who grown children my age but his wife was in the village. I became the town wife…he kept his promise and I did my WAEC, passed and I got pregnant …
I stayed back to raise my son. When he was 3 years old, I got admission for my OND. To do part time schooling here in Oshogbo. But I could not go because my husband suffered a stroke and erectile dysfunction… since then, he has not been able to perform s*xually.
I feel bad for him but for his age, he is 63 years old. I tried to keep faithful to him but being a young woman, my mates are not even married…I see them living their best life with their boyfriends…I get tempted alot..lots of young men trying to toast me but I still keep being faithful.
My issue is that despite the fact that I am faithful to my husband…he feels because he is not performing his duties, that I am chasing young men around. He gets really protective and jealous and questions my every move.
Anytime I talk about going to school, he gets angry…he wants me to be taking care of him now that he has stroke…although he is getting better…I think he thinks I will be meeting men in school, that is why he does not want me to do my program. I feel really bad cos I only married him for the opportunity to go back to school. If I cannot …then there is no use staying in this marriage.
I dont know what to do cos I got no one to help me. I cannot go back to my Aunty or my mother cos they washed their hands off me years ago. My husband is not active,I am not in school anymore and I am just 23years old…I dont know what the future holds…
I want to run away but I dont know where to go to…and I have a son to think of…I thought of leaving my son with my husband’s wife in the village …then I can go look for job maybe in Lagos or Abuja…my secondary school friend one is in Lagos…but I am scared…this is not how I want my life to be…no education…no money …no real husband…
I feel if I don’t take a step now…it will be too late. Many girls have done it before…that is…run away from their husbands…I won’t be the first…I feel I have no choice if I want to make it in this life…I can come back for my son later…please advise me…I need your guidance.
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