We Needed Help Around The House & Now, I Am Worried About The Nanny
Good Evening ma,
I just want to thank you for all the work you do to help marriages. I have gained so much being here. I just have a small issue and I need advise. My husband and I are doing ok. We have issues sometimes but we manage to resolve it like most couples do. The issue now is, I recently got promoted to head a new branch of our company in Ota.
The job came with a car and driver so I try to leave very early in the morning. I wont lie, its not been very easy. My husband tries to support but he too has his own job that us demanding.
Against our initial plan, we had to get a nanny and house help to help us. I interviewed several of the young ladies that was recommended to us but my spirit did not go well with them. My colleague who I confided in, now told me of a lady that her mother used to have as house keeper.
That this lady has been with her mother for 9 years. Says she is a grand mother. That her mother has gone to UK so they don’t need her again. I was happy cos this means, the woman will be experienced and has good reference.
When this lady came to us, it was in the evening so I really didn’t notice anything. I only thought she was a fat lady. I was just too happy to have her…help at last. The woman moved into our guest bedroom. The next morning, she was up, helping get everyone ready for school. The kids loved her…called her grand G. Her name is Glory.
It was like until 3 days later, a Saturday that I noticed. This our grandma G is a very young grand ma. She had her children when she was 16. she is a 39 year old grandma. And she had a very big bottom. Now, that is my problem. Her behind is so big that when she passes, even me as a woman…I can’t help but stare.
This is making seriously uncomfortable. I have caught my husband too staring at her buttocks. I know it may sound crazy that I would be worried about a grand ma…but this one is different. I don’t know if I am being paranoid that is why I decided to ask you and others.
I told the my colleague who recommended her to me and she says I have nothing to worry about cos even though this woman has been with her mother for so long, she has never been known for a flirt. Well…mine is different…her mother didn’t have a husband to worry about,….I trust my husband but I feel like I am putting him in an uncomfortable situation.
I tactically asked my husband what he thinks of our new help. He says oh…shes is ok…I could not read any thing from his answer but I think he knows why I am asking him cos he seemed a bit uncomfortable.
Another thing is, I have begun to notice grand ma greets my husband very well. I don’t like the friendliness. Am I reading too much into this? I think I am just uncomfortable. Should I send her away? She did not know do anything wrong. In fact…she is really helpful…feels like she is actually taken over my house. Before I do anything…she has done it.
Ok…so what do I do…do I relax and leave a big bum grand ma around my house especially cos I am not home most times or should I fire her and have my peace of mind…I am just so worried….has anyone been in my shoes before…how did they handle this? I dont want stories that touch o…before I will blame myself for bringing in a woman to tempt my husband…please advise.
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