How I Discovered My Fiancé Secret: An Affair With His Step Mother -Pls Advise
I just need a quick advise on my relationship. I am in love with someone that I think is the best man in the world. I just need to know one thing about him. I think he is keeping a secret from me. We met while attending a conference in Dubai. We started dating a month later.
Today we are engaged to be married after two years of dating. The problem is: he is estranged from his family. He comes from a big political family and he is completely cut off from them. He told me there was a fall out with his family especially his father. His mother is late,she was the first wife to his father.
My fiancé has never told me the full reason for the break up with his family. I know that whatever it is….is so deep that the only family that he talks to is his elder sister and that one is in the UK. We speak from time to time but when I asked her why her brother is cut off from their family,she is like,do not go there my dear.
So…I let things be out of respect for him. But when he made his intentions known to my family about marrying me…my dad insisted on his family being a part of the marriage planning. I begged my dad to let it go cos its something that my fiancé may even break up with me for if we insist.
That made my dad carry out his own investigation. My dad later called me to tell me what he found out about my fiancé and his family. He was actually banned for sleeping with one of his father’s wife. The story was that, the lady and my fiancé were secretly dating while she was also dating the father. That he begged his father to let the lady go cos he was in love with her but the father warned him to back off.
And then, the father married her. They still continued their affair until their father caught them. It was said that the father almost killed the lady. But he banished the son and disowned him. There are rumors that the father thinks some of the woman’s children are from his son. That brought about the hatred for his son cos both of them were in love with the same woman.
To my dad, this revelation is making him have second thoughts of my fiancé. He has not agreed to our marriage for that reason. He feels that my fiancé’s not a trust worthy man…my dad wants to know if my fiance is still in love with the father’s wife…I been trying to tell him that its in the past …its been almost 8 years ago or so…My dad said if that is the case, he wants to speak to him about it but I told him no.
And that is the hardest part is, I cannot tell my fiancé the reason. I cannot tell him that my father investigated him cos that will make him end things with me. I know this must be very heavy for him cos he never talks about it. I am confused as to how to progress with this matter…
How do I convince my dad that my fiancé past has nothing to do with his future and how do I marry him without asking him about the affair that he had with the father’s wife and the possibility that he fathered some of her children.
What should I do?
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