Help!! My Fiance Family Traditional Laws In Marriage Is Death Trap. I Found Out After Our Introduction.
My friend is engaged to a man from Aku in Igbo Etiti Local Government Area of Enugu State and their traditional marriage will take place this coming Easter period. She is 25 years and currently schooling in one of universities in eastern Nigeria. Few days after their introduction, her Fiance’s family called her for a meeting. At that meeting, she was told their tradition concerning marriage (iwu). First, she was told that as a married woman, if she has any s*xual relationship with any other man aside her husband, she will run mad (which she is ok with). Secondly, she is not to share any personal belongings with anyone not even her siblings or children else she will run mad.
This means she can’t wear same shoe, earrings, cloth, scarf etc with any of her friends, sister or even child else she will run mad and even if someone mistakenly wears any of these without her knowledge and the person goes into have sexual relationship with another person, she will still run mad. This is her major area of confusion. She is seeing it as a death trap and also bondage. She is doubting the possibility of keeping these laws. She is threatening to break off the engagement.
Note: she had been dating this guy for a year and six months and not even for once did he mention his village tradition to her. She had also met some of his family members and no one told her till after the introduction.
Now this is her anger: Why did her man and her mother in law to be keep such important information from her till after introduction? Is it possible to keep these LAWS?
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