We Started An Affair While He Was Engaged But He Is Obsessed & Will Not Let Me Go-Pls Advise
Please post for me. I really just need good advise, no need for abuse from others. So, my room mate is dating a very wealthy man. The man pays for her school fees, rent and everything, the man is married but he says he can marry up to four wives as his religion allows. His first wife is always travelling…So, he is planning to marry my room mate as his second wife.
The thing is that my room mate gave him conditions that she will only marry him until after she has finished school and she must remain a virgin until then. So, he is waiting and taking care of her. But then, this man noticed me and took my number. Since then, he calls me and tells me he wants me…that my room mate is keeping herself but he has temptations.
I initially refused but this man kept insisting. I told my friend and she told me to go ahead and eat this guy’s money after all…its not bad cos he can even marry a third and a fourth wife. So, I agreed. We started seeing each other secretly. This man is very generous. I been seeing him for over two years now. I got pregnant for him and I wanted to remove it….he said his religion is against abortion.
My issue is that…I cannot be a wife no 3. I am not sharing the same religion with him. Besides, my room mate will now know that I have been betraying her all these while. This girl had been nothing but nice to me, I couldn’t do it to her. So, I told him I will not have the baby…that I will have an abortion. Do you know he threatened to arrest me if I did?
So, I told my friend and he said I should lie to him that I miscarried. That I did and he was very suspicious. He said he will take me to his own doctor to check if I miscarried. I don’t know what to do now. I am so scared. I eventually told him no that I lied. He was so angry but I begged and seduced him with s8x….after s8x, he calmed down. We became lovers again. I made sure I continued to take my contraceptives.
Last November, he and my room mate got married. Even the night before their wedding, he came running to me for s8x. I then told him that I want to end things cos I want him to concentrate on his wife and me too, I want to find someone to marry me. He agreed. So,since then, he has not contacted me again.
Until last month, he says he wants me back. That he is not enjoying s8x with his new wife, my former room mate. That she cannot take care of him like me. I then told him no that I already have a boyfriend and I cant be his side chick anymore. He has two wives,….that should be enough to satisfy him but he says the first wife is not happy he took a second wife so she barely allows him to sleep with her and his new wife is not good in bed. That she just lies down there like a log.
That he wants me cos I am very experienced and all he thinks is that he has to marry me. I already told him I cannot marry someone who is already married to other women. He then said then I should be his mistress. He promised to buy me a house, cars, etc. I said no…no…I now have a boyfriend….do you know what he then did?
This guy sends me nude pictures that I sent to him when we were together and is threatening to post them online if I do not agree to continue to be his side chick. No doubt, he is a powerful man. The police cannot protect me from him if I report him for blackmail. I am stuck with him. I feel so powerless. My friend is advising me to be his side chick, collect as much money as I can from him and then run away to another city or another country where I will be free from him.
Please advise me. Should I take my friend’s idea, continue as his side chick….or should I dare him to post the pictures or should I tell his wives? I also thought of flipping this whole thing on him. Why don’t I set him up on social media…tell the whole world that he is threatening me to be his side chick…I could leak our conversation online?
My only fear is that he may try to expose me eventually…my boyfriend and family will find out and be embarrassed…its like there is no way out…he keeps saying things like he owns me…that I cannot leave him… he is just obsessed with me…some say its love but why does it feel like a prison?
I am so afraid and confused…what is my best option?