Will My Marriage Survive After My Husband Broke Our Trust?
Please help me. I am heartbroken. My marriage is under threat. I love my husband of 4 years so much. God has blessed my marriage with a good man and a daughter. Everything has been going on fine. I am in business with a very good childhood friend of mine. We went into business six years ago and together we run a very successful IT company.
My friend however is a divorcee. She married someone who was abusive and they ended divorced in less than 2 years. Since then, she has not been lucky in relationships. This made me to be very caring for her but I think I made a mistake by bringing her too close to my marriage.
Two months ago, I noticed my husband started to behave strange. He would come back late from work and he would avoid making love to me, saying he was tired, pressure from work, etc. I became worried but just prayed for him. But I could not take it any longer when he only touched me once in two months.
I had to wake him up crying in the night. I asked him to tell me what I did wrong that he no longer fancies me. My husband is a soft guy, he could not bear to see me cry, so he told me that the problem is not me but him. He told me that he has not been himself these past few weeks because he almost cheated on me with someone and he feels so guilty for doing that.
I was shocked at his revelation and he told me it was my business partner, my long time friend. That she had been flirting with him, grabbing his junk when no one was watching and he almost gave into her advances and kissed her. That they made out in her house but he caught himself after he almost penetrated her. But that my friend is not happy that he did not go through with having s*x with her and now, she is blackmailing him, that she will tell me.
That was why he has been behaving strangely. I was so angry with my husband for not telling me all these while that my friend was making advances at him. I felt he broke my trust. I was angry with my so called friend for trying to betray me like this. We own a multi million company together, how can she go behind my back to try to break my home?
I cried that night and since then, I have not been able to look my husband in the eye. I need time to heal and process what he confessed to me. I needed to be sure that he did not really go through with having s*x with her and indeed, that I could not determine because when I asked my friend, she denied it at first but later said it was my husband that came onto her.
I tried to defend my husband by saying he did not come onto her because he eventually did not sleep with her. And then my friend said to me: is that what he told you? She said she is sorry but my husband is lying and not telling me the whole truth. That he went ahead and they had s*x. My husband is denying that they had s*x. He said they made out only.
Now, these whole matter is messing with my head. Between my husband and my friend, I don’t know who is lying and I cant even deal with both of them anymore. I don’t know what to do or say anymore. I feel so pained and betrayed by both of them. Is there any hope for my marriage now that trust is broken?
Please help me.
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