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Stuck In A Loveless Marriage In Canada-I Need My Freedom From This Marriage

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Stuck In A Loveless Marriage In Canada-I Need My Freedom From This Marriage

How do I even start? Ok, so I am married but living single. No o, my husband is not dead o…nor is he travelled. He is very much well and alive and living in the same house as me and that is how we have been living for the past five years. So, I live in the Canada  I was single until 39 years old, it was hard but I met a my husband, a Ghanaian who just relocated.

We met and dated for like 3 months and he told me he wanted to marry me. I said yes. We got married four months later. But since he just relocated,he was not really financially bouyant. So, all our wedding and early living expenses was being covered by me. He used to be very grateful and tell me that soon, he will be contributing his part, thanking God he married such a resourceful wife like me.

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However, as life went on, I got pregnant and he got a better job, he was still not contributing. And worse still, he was not helping even with chores at home. He would say, African men dont do chores and he has not come abroad to become a less man. I was like but you used to do that before we married, he said …that before…he would do it no more.

Stuck In A Loveless Marriage In Canada-I Need My Freedom From This Marriage
Stuck In A Loveless Marriage In Canada-I Need My Freedom From This Marriage

Truly, I felt betrayed. Like I married someone who was pretending. Well, we married fast so maybe I missed all the red flags. Its been seven years and my husband has not changed. If anything, he is worse. He does not contribute to anything in the house. He earns better pay now. He does not help with anything, all he expects is his food and s8x when he wants it.

Stuck In A Loveless Marriage In Canada-I Need My Freedom From This Marriage
Stuck In A Loveless Marriage In Canada-I Need My Freedom From This Marriage

I got so worked up two years ago when I found out that he was sending his monies back home to Ghana. My husband has two houses in Ghana and he is right now building a hotel. So, I have been the fool. I am not saving cos I am caring for him and our two children, paying mortgage, paying light and water bills, school fees…I can barely send any money home to my family not to talk of save anything.

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On top of that, barely touches me. He told me that I am not attractive, that I am fat. That he married me out of pity cos of my age. That he just cannot find himself attracted to me. I have tried to get some Church leaders here to talk to him but he listens and tries to change for one or two days and he goes back to his bad ways.

So, two years ago, I made up my mind to stop disturbing him, focus on my children and me. I am considering divorce but I don’t want to be the one to initiate it otherwise, I will be forced to pay him cos he will claim that  I am the one supporting his current lifestyle and that a divorce would mean he cannot continue living at this standard.

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So, I am waiting for him to get tired and divorce me. This wicked man does not want to divorce me. I have begged him and he said no. Now, I am stuck in a marriage that I am not loved nor do I love the man. I don’t want to spend a penny of mine on him anymore. I don’t know what to do. I also have s8xual needs cos we do not have s8x anymore, he would have a reason to ask the court to dissolve our marriage and ask me for spousal support.

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I have been feeling so trapped. I want out. I am seeking any lawyer here in Canada or anyone knowledgeable about international marriage laws to advice how best I can free myself from this marriage without parting with a penny from this man. Please advise me.

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Stuck In A Loveless Marriage In Canada-I Need My Freedom From This Marriage
Jzhane
A passionate people and godly relationship advocate!...Trained Psychologist and Human Resources Practioner. A seasoned Marriage and relationship counsellor. A mother, wife, sister, friend and daughter. J

4 COMMENTS

  1. Madam with this his attitude, you shouldn’t be considering sex with him, na wa ooh!
    Stop cooking for him and focus on yourself and children. In fact eh, you can separate from him for the main time depending on whatever out come you get for the divorce.

  2. Please start doing things that will frustrate him in the marriage, so that he can do the needful. In as much as divorce is not the best,I will not advise you continue staying in that kind of marriage bikonu,don’t know who owns the house where you live, I would have said you should tell him to give you space for now,it is well.

  3. Sorry about that my sister but I have a friend who is the same state and she leaves in Canada Ontario but ignore him or you can contact me ony watsap number +256771360643 and I see how I can help or write me on my email address [email protected]. That old fashion way of African men treating our African angels is wornout it’s 2021

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