I Dreamed Of My Ex For Three Years & Now He Is Back-Pls Advice
I need honest advice please. I am not a saint but I also believe no one is perfect. Six years ago, I met Hugo (not real name). A very handsome guy. He drove a flashy Mercedes Benz and had a sweet smile. We met at a function. I was with my boyfriend and he didn’t even care, he flirted with me and trolled me.
Later on, I found out that he investigated me and got my no from a friend. He told her that he fell in love at first sight with me. I thought he was crazy. I had a boyfriend but Hugo did not give me any space. From money to expensive gifts,my boyfriend and I broke up and I started to date Hugo.
Being with Hugo was crazy yet magical. It was the happiest time of my life. I counted myself very lucky. However, I found out Hugo was into yahoo (internet fraud) and I became worried. I told him to end it or I leave. He kept promising to leave but that I should be patient.
We were getting too serious and I found out I was pregnant. If I had told Hugo, he would have married me right away because he always said he can’t wait to marry me and get me pregnant so we can have beautiful babies. But I panicked cos even though Hugo was promising to end his lifestyle, he only went deeper and deeper.
Two of his acquaintances were nabbed by law enforcement and Hugo went into hiding. I was so scared that I did not know what to do. I turned to his only friend that I knew who asked me to chill out in his place until the dust settles.
This friend claimed Hugo said I should maintain that all will be well soon. But I could not talk to him directly cos he was scared of being traced. I was vulnerable and always crying. One day, his friend asked me why I was crying, I could not tell him but we slept together.
He was so sorry after and begged me to forgive him. We both committed the crime and I begged him to say nothing to Hugo….but after a month, no word from Hugo, I had to terminate the pregnancy before I would begin to show…I did not want to be pregnant without a father….it was better to move on with my life.
Three years later, Hugo reappeared in my life. But now, I am in another relationship. I told him no way am going back to meet him. Hugo then told me that he has truly quit the old lifestyle. He even has a new look. Hugo apologized to me and told me he is into legit real estate and automobile businesses now.
I wont lie…I have strong feelings for this man. I have thought about him every day for the last three years. I tell myself that I can move on from him but since he reappeared, you know Hugo…he is not backing down. He is now causing trouble in my current relationship that my boyfriend is getting suspicious.
My issue is: how do I know that Hugo will not go back to his fraudulent lifestyle? All my body, spirit yearns for him…we talk about the goals we had and I sincerely want to do life with this man…he is kind, romantic and very caring. He swears he will not go back to that life …
Another thing, is the little indiscretion with his friend when he disappeared? He cant blame me cos he left me…I intend to keep quiet about that …I hope his friend keeps his secret too cos we both made that mistake…
Does this make me a bad person? I just pray I don’t make that mistake again.
What should I do please?
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