Church Doctrine Wahala-Must We Marry In The Bride Mother’s Church?
Pls advise me.
The first thing I want to talk about is my own type of belief towards dating and marriage. I don’t date ladies for fun. I always date for marriage. I have dated only two ladies after my NYSC and those relationships ended badly.
The first one was older than me and my family were against it and the girl had to leave as she didn’t want in-law trouble during marriage even though I wanted to fight for her and change my family decision.
The second one too left me after her pastor told her a revelation that we are not compatible as couples. I tried to beg and convince her (for months) to stay and let’s pray over it but she didn’t listen. So since then I have been avoiding to date anybody anyhow again.
So issue here is that I met someone recently few months ago and we have gotten close to a stage where I can propose to date her but there is a small issue that I need advice on that will make me to decide whether I can date her or not.
The thing is that before she knew me, she used to go to this white churches (Cele) with her mother but after she complained to me that she was not growing spiritually in that church, I told her to switch to another church and she obeyed and started attending a pentecostal church. We don’t live in the same town, if not, it would have been a switch to my own church.
When we first started the friendship, I never had intention to date her before (even though I liked her and fancied her to be attractive enough), as I have always had it in mind never to date Cele / white garment church members as they do lot of nonsense in those type of churches, as I have been a member before for a shortwhile during NYSC and I have also heard so many stories from other people about their religious beliefs and practices.
But as we kept becoming closer, I started noticing her other good qualities as a wife material and she obeys and respects my words. And now that she is attending a different church, it even made me to start considering her as someone I could date since she wants it too but wants me to come out of my shell to tell her first, as I always tell her I am not yet ready to enter into a relationship with anybody.
So the question I want to ask is this, as I am a little inexperienced about this aspect.
“If she wants to get married to me in the future, is it compulsory that she must do the wedding in her mother’s white garment church or she has the right to decide to marry in her own new pentecostal church?” (Note: she has no father around. He abandoned she and her mother and remarried another wife when she was still a kid).
I am asking this question as I don’t know the actual church tradition involved about getting married in the bride’s church. Also apart from me having strong negative interest towards those going to white garment churches, my family will also be against it. So if I was to date this girl or fight for her if any issue should come up between her and my family, I don’t want it to be an issue over the type of church where the wedding will take place.
Pls I need matured advice as this is not really about a matter of love. It’s about a matter of interest and principles. I don’t want to make the mistake of entering into the relationship and then later breaking up with her due to this small issue. If there’s no possibility to avoid that white garment church, then I won’t ever bother to date her at all.
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