My Wife Says I Am Not Man Enough For Her-Please Advise
I want to remain anonymous. Few years ago, I went for camp and was praying to God for alot of things that was not going well in my life at the time. I needed a job, I needed to find a good wife because I had been in some relationships that left me heartbroken.
As I prayed and fasted, I noticed a nice looking lady too who came for the prayers. One evening, after praying, I went for evening service and sat down. Looking beside me, the person who sat beside me was the same lady. She greeted me with the prettiest smile. I was like God, is this my wife?
And yes, she was really warm and friendly and we exchanged numbers. Thereafter, a month later, I got a job. I was so happy. It was a big paying job, I was going to earn over 100% increase from my last pay and it came with a car. I knew then, God who gave me the job and car will give me a wife.
However, I was not meeting any ladies that caught my fancy. So, I called that lady that sat near me in camp. She did not remember me at first but when she did, she was so warm and nice. I asked her if she was single, she said yes and I told her my desire to find a wife. She said she also came to camp to pray for a husband.
Long story short, we began to date and yes, she was everything I wanted in a wife. After like three months of dating, I asked her how she feels about intimacy before marriage. She said she would like to remain celibate if I don’t mind but once we inform our parents about the marriage, then she is happy to have intimacy.
So dating for us was just slight kissing and cuddling but soon after a year, I engaged her and we had introductions at her family house. By then, she would come to my place and spend weekend and we would play all weekend. I liked her energy, she was very s8xually agile, she could go all night and all day if i wanted her to.
After our traditional wedding, she moved in with me and since that day, there is not a day that passes that my wife does not have s*x. At first, it was exciting but if I am tired, it becomes a problem. Now, because of the constant s8x, my wife was pregnant on our wedding day. I was praying the ministers did not notice cos I have tried to be an upstanding man.
Even through out her pregnancy and after, my wife says marriage is for s8x. I do not know if they are other men like me but I cannot be having s*x everyday with the way Lagos stress is. I told her to renew her mind but she starts getting all worked up and saying abusive words to me.
That many men would give anything to have a wife like her that wants s*x everyday. I told her, I am not all men and I really prefer a healthy s*x life than having s*x like rabbits all the time. She says I am not man enough or I am cheating or any rubbish that comes out of her mouth. I think she is a nice woman but this s*x matter makes her behave like a nasty person.
It has gotten to a point that I have to sleep sometimes in the visitors room just to avoid another fight about s*x. Now, she reported me to our pastor that we are not s8xually compatible , that I do not satisfy her s8xually. I tried to explain to the pastor that my wife is being unrealistic and all he told me was that it is my duty to keep my wife satisfied.
Two weeks ago, my wife started again and I did my best but this matter was beginning to tire me and I am even beginning to loose interest because I don’t want to hear from her, is that all? Why did you come so soon after almost one hour of f*cking? I had no choice but to stay away from her cos I was tired of her nagging.
That night, in the dead of the night, I was in the guest room, but I suddenly woke up to use the toilet. Around 1am. After I easing myself, I could not sleep again. I felt bad with what was going on with me and my wife. I wanted to go meet her and try to make up with her. I got to our room and started hearing moaning sounds.
I stopped in my tracks, what came to my mind was: my wife was either masturbating or watching porn. I was shocked to find the door looked. I stood by the door and listened a little more, next thing, she was calling someone daddy. And asking him to f*ck her and do all kinds of dirty things to her.
Immediately, I kicked the door hard cos I was enraged…could it be that there was a man in my room or what? Thank God the door was faulty or maybe she just used something to block the door…so it was easy to break open.
Before my wife could gather herself, I caught her red handed. She was having video s*x with a man on her computer, the man was waking himself and my wife was moaning erotically to him on the screen.
My goodness….she tried to shut down the computer and I took it from her. The man was on video quickly logged off. This time, I was the one shouting and asking who the man was…she kept quiet and said nothing. She was perfectly mute. I had to shake her vigorously and must have said I will kill her now if she does not speak up and tell me who she was having video s*x with.
My wife said he is nobody. Someone she met online and they are just having fun …nothing serious. Nothing serious? But you were naked and moaning and watching him wank himself off by watching you too? My wife said, well, if you were doing your duty, will I be doing this? I don’t know how I got into this but this is not the woman I asked God for. How can a good church girl be so consumed by s*x?
My wife is nasty and a s*x addict and she thinks its normal. We talked about s8x during dating …I knew she was not a virgin but I did not know this was a big deal to her. I consider myself a normal guy with a normal s8xual appetite but my wife clearly has a higher appetite.
Now, she is having online s8x…so how do I know its not gotten to cheating outside our marriage? She said she has never cheated but she does talk to guys online, that its just masturbating, not cheating. I dragged her phone from her and saw that she has been chatting with this guy for like a month and they have been talking dirty and masturbating together.
My wife said she does not want a divorce when I asked her if she wants a divorce since am not enough for her. She started to beg me, that she will not do it again. I love my wife, she is a good wife and mother but her s8xual drive is way higher than mine. Or is she an addict? How do I make her happy cos I also feel inadequate as a man not able to satisfy his wife.
My wife contacted one of these Instagram aphrodisiacs to help me with stamina for s*x but I refused to take it because I believe if you start those things, there is no telling what the side effects will be. I am not happy with the way things are, its making me quite suspicious of my wife cos I feel I am not s*xually compatible with her.
Our marriage is getting very strained and tensed. We both need professional help otherwise, I may just free her cos I cannot live in a marriage where I am not enough for my woman…that feeling is worse than anything a man can think of. Our marriage is barely three years old.
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