My Long Distance Marriage Is In Trouble Because I Was Feeling Lonely
I am in a relationship quagmire. Please don’t judge me, I was unlucky in relationship, that is how I landed where I am now. For nine years, I was dating my ex boyfriend, I was loyal but he is an ass hole, he ended up lying to me and married someone he met for barely one year. That really broke my heart because I gave him so many years of my life.
One of my friends who is married to a German expatriate invited me to her house party where I met her husband and some of his friends. I was introduced to one of her husband’s friends who took an interest in me. After the party, we went to a hotel and he told me he liked me and wants to have fun.
Yes, he is married, his family is in Australia. But at age 34, I was tired of being lonely and cheated on by men so since this man treats me with so much love and care, we fell in love and he said he wanted to have a kid with me. I told him no because we are not married and I will not have a child out of wedlock. He then agreed and we had our traditional marriage.
I had a baby boy for him. Things were going fine but eight months after I gave birth, the company he was working for did not renew his contract, he had to go back to Australia. The plan was for him to get another expatriate job and try to come back to Nigeria. He is also trying to work his Nigerian passport for visit but since he returned, things have not worked out the way we planned.
Though he has been sending money for our upkeep and he bought a house for us, I feel lonely most of the time. I have ben praying to God to intervene and make things ok so he can return back to me and my son.
My friend told me she overheard a conversation with her husband and mine: that his Australian wife found out about me and has threatened to divorce him if he comes back to Nigeria. I confronted him, he denied it but its been three years since he left and I am beginning to get frustrated.
I eventually told him that if he is not coming back, that we should get a divorce but he says no, that I should give him some more time. Things are hard for me, I caught my driver masturbating one time, I began to lust after him. I have been without s*x for three years. I eventually seduced him and we began to f*ck each other regularly. I am not proud of that but my husband is f*cking his oyinbo wife everyday and leaving me dry here, what am I supposed to do?
To the best of my ability, I tried to protect myself using pills but I did not know how I ended up getting pregnant for my driver. The bad thing is, I did not find out until I am five and a half months pregnant. I do not know how, I was seeing my period all these while even though I noticed it was late one time but it eventually came later. They say its too late for an abortion, the doctor advised against it especially because I am AS, he said its dangerous.
I am panicking because, first I don’t know what to do with this pregnancy. My driver cannot know I am pregnant for him….my Australian husband cannot know either. I don’t even know if the so called husband is even coming back.
In my panic, I thought of firing my driver so he does not find out, maybe have the baby and leave the baby with my mom. When I tried to fire him, he called my husband and my husband refused with my decision to fire the driver. That was when it dawned on me that my husband hired this driver to spy on me.
Now this same spy driver, I am stuck with, is the father of my unborn child. I called him to tell him that I don’t want my husband to find out that we have been sleeping with each other, so he should take 500k or 1M and leave before someone tells my husband about us. This man refused, he said I should not worry, that if I don’t tell, he too wont tell because my husband trusts him so much.
I also found out that this driver gets special payment from my husband for keeping an eye on me. I am scared now. What do I do? Should I try to frame the driver, tell my husband he tried to rape me? Will he believe me? What if the driver has evidence to prove it was not rape but consensual s*x?
I feel stuck like I am in a prison. My pregnancy is almost six months…what am I going to do? Should I tell the driver that I am pregnant for him? Since he is working for my husband, I am sure he would not want my husband to know he got me pregnant? Please advise me. I am so worried.
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