Married Friend Replies- I Am Not A Hypocrite I Am A Realist
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First of all, I do not owe this ‘poster; any response but after reading what mama wrote in the WhatsApp group, I want to expose who this so called ‘friend’ of mine that posted about me. For the records, she posted me because I told her about LS and she is jealous bitch who is looking for few seconds of fame.
I am going to call her Dada cos her head is not correct. Yes, we used to be friends long long ago but I found Jesus and I left most of my bad influences way back. I have not heard from Dada for so long but she messaged me on facebook few weeks ago that she was coming to town for a wedding and I innocently invited her to visit me when she comes around.
Dada came to my place after her so called wedding, when she saw how well I was doing, all she kept saying is:there is hope for Ashawo o. Meaning, that if someone like me can change and find a decent man to marry, that means there is hope for her.
Of course, I encouraged her by saying God will give her own man who will love her like my own husband. What is wrong with that prayer? I never knew she was upset. I never showed her that I am better than her in any way. Her conscience must be troubling her cos she is still a runs girl.
Anyway, Dada left my place after we spent almost 5 hours gisting and eating in my house. That evening, she tried to call me when she got to her hotel but the network was bad. Later, she called me saying she saw my ex with my husband in her hotel. Next thing she started calling me ashawo wey dey f*ck her ex and husband together. Ha…I immediately got angry and cursed her back after she said she was going to sleep with my ex that night.
For me, I do not care about her or what my ex does but my issue is, she did not even ask me how my husband and ex came to know each other, she just assumed. And then I panicked cos I have not told my husband about Tola and myself. My husband truly sees Tola as a mentor cos Tola is a kind soul even if he is a womanizer.
Tola and myself had a s8xual relationship in the past but it became more like business later on. Tola was the one who encouraged me to come out of ashawo business but he wanted me to be his side chick, only servicing him. Thank God, I found Jesus, so I started my business and Tola gave me 5M capital money.
That is why I call him my mentor. Tola and myself have not had s*x since he gave me 5M. He says I can keep the money as his contribution to my freedom. But now and again, Tola makes advances but I always tell him no, cos I was getting married. We remained friends since. When my husband needed contact in Abuja for a contract, Tola helped him.
My husband is a good man, he never questioned me about my past and he trusts me. I will never betray that trust. So when Dada started saying rubbish, I panicked and lied against her to her boyfriend in my panic but truly, I do not have anything with Tola. I swear to God who made me. I just got angry cos Dada was making it seem like I was a bad wife because I introduced my husband to an ex.
My husband never asked about my relationship with Tola in the best. Yes, old things are past away. People like Dada are dying of envy when they see that people like me actually are making it in life despite how we started. This is my story. I have no apology to give to Dada…I overreacted but she is not a saint either. How am I sure she did not actually sleep with Tola? Tola likes woman na.
Dada is just wicked and a gossip. And such people will never find peace…she is looking for fame or husband but she cannot get cheap fame by telling lies and saying things that are not real. Why come to say rubbish in LS? Thank God many people called her envious and wicked. I rest my case.
As for my husband, he does not care about my past…maybe he suspects Tola was a former s*x client of mine, he does not care but if someone like Dada thinks she can use my past against me, I will fight her to the teeth. She has not seen crazy …I do not have time for rubbish.
Should I have told my husband about Tola? What good will that bring but unnecessary suspicion and we miss business connections that the relationship we have enjoyed. Tola obviously lied that he was still sleeping with me…maybe its his fantasy, well, good for him but but will never happen.
Am I the only woman in the whole world doing business with her ex? Remember, I was a runs girl for the money, not for love…Tola is about money…no love…only my husband is for love.
So, if my story does not still make sense to Dada or anyone, they should drink water. I cannot come and kill myself. Dada concentrate on quitting Ashawo business and find your onw good man. Then you tell your husband all about the men you have slept with and never talk to them again even if its for business.
Again should I have told my husband? The day my husband finds out, I believe we will cross that bridge (anyone who thinks my husband should know should explain what good that will do, besides, I still do business with some of my old clients, I mean, legitimate business, should I also stop talking to everyone I have a past with or tell my husband I f8cked them before I can do business?)
I am not a saint, I have made mistakes before and I am willing to learn but If Dada or any one tries to scatter my marriage….I will not hesitate to fight back. I know where her secrets are buried still. Let us not go there, it might result in regrets.
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