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True Life Story: I Betrayed My Family And Friends Because Of A Love Affair


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True Life Story: I Betrayed My Family And Friends Because Of A Love Affair

I need to unburden my heart. I have been living in heavy bondage for the last two years. This burden was caused by me. I feel so heavy in my heart and very suspicious too. So, I was married to my very beautiful and wonderful wife. I loved her so much and everything was fine until I met this woman called Boma (not real name).

I am not the type to cheat on my wife. I have never even seriously cheated before marriage but when I met Boma, I do not know how I became entangled with her. We started having an affair. It was just friends with Benefits but I became more and more attached to her, that I began to loose interest in my wife.

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My wife noticed I was loosing interest and she did all she could to talk to me and win me back. She eventually discovered I was cheating and she was heartbroken. She tried several spiritual intervention but I was headstrong. I cheated openly. I spoke to her without respect and even insulted her openly.

I eventually moved out of my home to live with Boma. My wife found out she was pregnant that same month but I did not give a hoot. I was in love with Boma. My family and her family tried to talk sense into me but I refused to pick their calls neither did I answer any call for family meeting.

Boma also got pregnant and I paid her bride price without m family’s consent. We were married and that is when my wife started having health challenges. People said she developed high BP because I abandoned her and the pregnancy. She eventually lost the baby (a boy) in her second trimester. I was told but I did not bother to show interest.

My wife filed for a divorce after she left the hospital. Boma gave birth to a baby girl. I lost contact with my wife. But shortly after Boma put to bed, we started having issues. I started noticing that she was fetish and flirting with men. I think that was when I realized that she must have gone fetish on me.

When I confronted her if she used any jazz on me, she laughed an evil laugh and said I was a waste of resources. She said she realized that she worked too hard to keep me when my value is so small. Boma’s mother too started giving me issues. That he daughter made a mistake to marry me. That her daughter deserves to be with a richer man than me.

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I begged Boma not to disgrace me when it became obvious that she was hanging out with very rich men. Boma would hardly even look after our child. She got a nanny and would abandon the baby for weeks while travelling all over the country. I can say my eyes are open now. I see how I lost myself.

There is no way I could have left such a caring wife if Boma did not do something spiritual to make me leave my wife and unborn child to die. Someone close to Boma’s family told me that Boma’s mother is very fetish, that she was the one behind my baby’s death, so I would not be tied to my wife even after I married Boma. They killed my baby with my beautiful wife.

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My heart is very heavy. I am living in serious regret and I wish I could undo all the wrong I have done to my wife and my family. How will they forgive me for marrying a woman that destroyed our lives? Our baby? For having a child with the enemy? I am a shadow of myself and I have started to loose faith in myself cos I know God has forsaken me.

There you have it, I have not been able to tell anyone about that is happening to me because I abandoned a all my friends and family to follow Boma. What do I do now? Sometimes, I feel like I have lost the right to be happy again cos all around me is fight everyday with Boma. We are not even intimate again.

We are living in such a toxic relationship, Boma is cheating on me, I am cheating on her but I am not doing it out of anything but anger and need to revenge on Boma. But I feel terrible cos I am always thinking of my wife. Our divorce is not yet concluded. I am leaving Boma but I am in so much regret….Do I even stand a chance with my wife again ?Maybe never…Or should I just forget about her and start afresh? What about our families? Will anyone forgive me for being such a betrayer?

Please advice me.


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  1. She might have used juju on you maybe when you had sex with her.

    When they warn you of fornication and adultery, many of you won’t listen, you keep justifying your GREED with nonsense FALSE narratives, men are polygamous in nature, women are emotional so they can fall for a man that gives them attention.

    See where you landed yourself, thank GOD she didn’t even kill you. I suggest you go for serious spiritual cleansing from her juju.

    How you will meet with family members and your wife is what I don’t know.


  2. Wow, it is well with you. The Bible says while we are still sinners, Christ died for us. The most important first step is where you are now: realising you were hypnotized all these while. Prayerless is our major problem of man.”When the men slept, the enemy came and sowed tiers” . May the Lord help your home and every home,

    Good news is: its never too late to begin afresh. Go back to God as dirty and filthy as you are, confess your sins and HE will receive you back. but you need to forgive yourself and give time to heal. See yourself as a prodigal project . youre at the stage of returning back to “the Father” . He ll receive you and restore you even before your wife and your family do.

    For emphasis again: Self- heal first , then try going back to your first love and families. gIVE THEM TIME TOO, ITS NOT GOING TO BE AUTOMATIC ACCEPTANCE.
    Please, you may need to go for deliverance as well break link/curses with the fetish woman. Do consider this step, find a ministry that can help you.
    Truth is, When men stray, it gets to a point they dont find pleasure in IT anymore. But some are unlucky because it could be too late. Thank God yours is not. Please put yourself together and make use of the chance life is offering you again.


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