Premarital s*x occurs when two persons intending to married get involved with s*xual act before wedding. Premarital s*x is not only the very act of s.e.x but all other related activities is also viewed as s*xual immorality. These include but not limited to petting, s*x chatting, Kissing, sending or viewing nude pictures etc.
Many a young man having found the lady he wants to marry mounts pressure on her to come to bed with him arguing that ‘one must taste what one wants to buy.’ A child of God should neither mount nor succumb to such a pressure. For the lady, she must understand that not every relationship ends in marriage. Therefore it will be very unfortunate for the lady to give in to such a pressure and in the end not get married to the man in question.
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More importantly, God warns His people to stay away from s*xual immorality. One reasons He commanded us to do so is because our bodies are God’s temple and s*xual immorality pollutes it ( 1st Cor. 6 :18)
Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body. 19 What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own?
God is holy. He frowns at s*xual immorality of any kind and warns His people not to pollute themselves even while getting ready for marriage. He desires that marriage be conducted in the purest possible form (Heb. 13:4).
Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge
Many Christians hide under the guise of “we are getting married” to engage in s*xual immorality. God frowns at this because He knows that this act will hurt us. Therefore, He warns us to stay away from it. So here are 7 reasons you must stay away from premarital s.e.x even when you are sure that man or woman you are involved with has agreed to marry you.
Loss of Value
When a lady offers herself to the man that has proposed to her but has not taken her to the alter yet, she loses value in the eyes of the man. To him there’s nothing new about the lady any more. The excitement about the lady fizzles out and in most cases the man begins to loose interest and withdraws from the relationship. He may feel he has conquered her and may move on to a new territory.
When a lady gives in to s*xual advances from the man who promises to marry her, she loses the trust of the man. His mind set will be like ‘since she offered herself to him before marriage she can also later offer herself to another man not married to her. So even when the two persons involved in this act marry in future, the trust that should exist between married couples will no longer be there.
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In many Bible-believing churches, prior to their wedding ceremony, the intending couple will be asked whether they have been involved s*xually and if the answer is in the affirmative, they will have to face discipline. One of which is to stand before the congregation to confess their wrong doing. Imagine the shame it will cause you and your family and friends to stand before the congregation in your place of worship to confess that you have committed s*xual immorality.
Feeling of Guilt
For every child of God who engages in s*x before marriage there is guilt conscience afterwards. The Devil who pushes a person to engage in it will afflict him or her will a feeling of guilt thereafter. This feeing of guilt will linger even after wedding and when there’s any little problem later in marriage the two persons involved will tend to think that they are being afflicted because of the s*xual immorality they committed before marriage. This feeling can only be removed by confession, repentance and restitution.
Feeling of worthlessness
The lady who offers herself to a man who promised to marry her but has not taken her to the alter feels worthless, especially when their relationship ends before marriage. She feels as if something precious has been taken from her. This feeling is heightened when she finds out that the man left her to marry another woman immediately after.
Opens door for demons
S*xual immorality opens doors for demons to attack the marriage later. These attacks may include barrenness or delay in conception, infidelity, sicknesses, poverty, turbulence in marriage etc.
Risk of pregnancy
Pregnancy may results from premarital s*x. To hide the shame the couple may opt for abortion thereby further offending God.
Other effects of premarital s*x include contacting S*xually Transmitted Diseases (STDs) like HIV/AIDS, Gonorrhea, Syphilis, Staphylococcus etc