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Covid-19 Pandemic: My Boyfriend Abandoned Me When I Needed Him Most

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Hello ma’am,

I started reading Lively Stones when I was in isolation for covid-19. Yes,I am a survivor.praise God. I got diagnosed in March and it was the most difficult time in my life. I was not sick but I contracted it through a friend that had contact with a customer who had the virus.

I went into Isolation immediately. I thought I was going to die,if not for the prayers of family and medical team in the Isolation centre. I told my boyfriend who lives in Ajah. Thank God we had not seen a week before I got infected. He did take the test and was negative.

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What surprised me was that as soon as I went into Isolation,my boyfriend stopped communicating with me. I would call him and no response. We have been dating for a year and 3 months. He used to be a very caring and all about me. So it was difficult to relate why he wouldn’t call me when I became sick.

My mother told me to forget him. I was like,no…something is wrong. I sent him a long message on whatspp. I told him if he was breaking up with me cos of covid-19,then he was never really in love with me. Still no response. It was heart breaking but I was told to concentrate on getting well and forget him.

Thank God,I was free of the virus towards the end of April,I was discharged. I went home,my family all happy to receive me. I never got closure from my boyfriend and I wanted to reach out to him when I got out but I decided not to cos I really felt betrayed.

Last week,he called me out of the blues. I did not want to pick but he called several times until I had to. He appeared to be happy to hear my voice. I was like,why have you not called me for over a month,almost 2 months.

His response was: he is sorry that he lost his phone and has been having difficulty in retrieving the line cos of the lockdown. The process of retrieving sim involves getting a court affidavit and all ….so he could not do all of that during the lock down.

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I was not happy with his response cos he could have used someone else phone to call me. I feel bad that all these happened and I told him to give me time to process things. Do you think his reason is cogent enough?

He is supposed to be in love with me and he was never there when I needed him most…what should I do? Should I accept him back based on the excuse he gave? I feel he did not try enough to reach me. I feel he did not care enough…should I let him go,how do I tell he is not lying?

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Jzhane
Jzhane
A passionate people and godly relationship advocate!...Trained Psychologist and Human Resources Practioner. A seasoned Marriage and relationship counsellor. A mother, wife, sister, friend and daughter. J

22 COMMENTS

  1. I don’t think anybody can tell you that for a fact if he is lying or not… You only can know that… If you want to continue with him it is left to you cos he might be telling the truth and he might not be… Did you ask him y he didn’t use somebody else’s phone to contact you or reach out to your family? I just think you should ask him some questions before jumping to conclusions…

  2. Well atimes situation reveals the true identity of our so called loved ones… well for me I think you need to think of about it and have it well processed well. For me it’s a litmus taste which he failed woefully except he has done that before if not still give him a second chance but be more careful…

  3. May be his phone really got missing. You never know. Things happen. Just forgive him if you really love him. But be on the qui vive in case he drops other red flags.

  4. It is not enough reason to end the relationship, what if everything he told you was nothing but the truth? Continue with him if you really love him,then watch out for another mistake then you can have enough fact to conclude.Forgive him and move on with him.

  5. To me give him a second and be very vigilante because it seems like you were the only one in love with him,he was not into you,so for the benefit of doubt’s give him a second chance but be very careful, and make sure you don’t show it to him,I thank God for your life, be strong and always be watchful with this guy,because love is not deceptful,.

  6. This guy is obviously lying to you..he doesn’t really need a court affidavit to call you.there are a lot of things to do to get through to the one you love.
    You don’t need anyone to tell you to forget him.he isn’t the one for you cos you deserve someone better, someone who will return your love..

  7. Thank God for his saving grace upon your life. It’s obvious he’s lying, why didn’t he call using someone phone? Please let him be, one who will stick by you no matter the circumstance will find you

  8. Thank God for healing you and bringing you back on your feet.

    Process his reasons very well: reason that there’s no one he could borrow his/her phone to contact you at least for once, throughout to close to 2 Months.

    Your Mom has said it all….. Forget him!

    The Truth is that, No One will easily forget/abandon someone he truly loved….no matter the circumstances.
    It seems you are the one who loved the man but he’s Not yet “in” to you.

    If you believe his story and reason, give him another chance but let your brain be working and alert for any red flag.

    Take care!

  9. The reason he gave isn’t enough.
    How won’t he have your number off hand or write it down else where
    Just be careful….

  10. Hey,

    I think this relationship could be better and stronger if both applied more dedication. Agreed,his phone could have made him incommunicado but he could have at least found a way to call or email you.

    His excuse is a bit lame. Maybe he panicked when he heard you had covid-19…whatever the reason,I think you should both take it slow. Just be platonic friends for now,until you can be 100% sure of his loyalty and commitment to the relationship.

    Cheers

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