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Generational Curses: Will My In-laws Marriage Affect Our Own Marriage?

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Good Morning ma,

I need your advise. I have been in a relationship for 10 months now. I love my boyfriend and recently we got engaged. I have never been so happy in my life. Our plan is to get married before the end of the year.

However,something happened. Or rather,I found out something about my fiance’s family and that has been really bothering me. My fiance’s parents are very close and well behaved people. Its the way they raised my fiance that even made me feel more comfortable around them.

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So,we were visiting his parents two weeks ago and we were watching a movie together. In the movie, two cousins fell in love and wanted to be together but the family was against it. I expressed my opinion on the fact that it could never happen in Nigeria.

It was my fiance’s father that shocked me. He said there was nothing wrong with cousins getting married. He said it was done in the bible days and God is not against it. I tried to argue that was in the old testament and he dropped the bombshell.

My fiance’s father and mother are cousins!….My mouth and eyes dropped open. I asked so many questions cos I have never seen anything like that before.His father’s mother and his mother’s father are siblings.

The tried to explain that they loved each other so much and have been very close from childhood. That their parents saw how much they loved each other,that the didnt mind giving their blessings to their union.

This revelation really bothered me. I had to share it with my mother. Now,my mother has told my father and my parents are saying our marriage cannot take place because what my fiance’s parents did is incest.

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Now,I am confused….I know marriage between siblings is incest…is that that the same with cousins? My fiance’s father showed me where in the bible cousins married…so maybe God is not against it….but my parents are saying its incest.

My fiance said it does not matter if its incest or not …after all…its our marriage….not his parents marriage…my parents said there are general curses for children of incest…that my fiance maybe carrying that curse….I am really confused…

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what should I do…break up this beautiful relationship? Or try to convince my parents that it does not matter?

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Jzhane
Jzhane
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10 COMMENTS

  1. My sister with prayers try and convince your parent that you will go ahead with marriage that everything will be fine……. just be strong

  2. Dear lady, the fact that your parents are against your marriage to this family…. Walk away !

    Already it doesn’t seem right to you personally for Cousins to be in Marriage together.
    Again, your parents has added their point of view and understanding as “Curse” on their offsprings.

    So, don’t live in fear of “Curse” all through your Married Life. You are suppose to be happy and enjoying the bliss of marriage without “Fear of any Curse”.

    There are many good and responsible men out there. You can find your choice !!

    Pray for another God’s given man whom you will spend the rest of your life with…. without Fears, condemnation and regrets.

    God Bless.

  3. Please, if this guy is right for you in all fronts, don’t lose your relationship because of what your parents think. Some Royal Families in the UK, Egypt(Cleopatra) and some European countries married their siblings and cousins so as to keep the bloodline pure. There were some genetic issues that arose because they kept marrying and remarrying themselves. In the bible, Isaac married his cousin, Jacob, same thing. The most important thing should be that this is not a recurrence in his family, it was just love that drove his parents to it. The deed has been done and cannot be undone. You even testified that he has a lovely family and was raised right. For his dad to have revealed that secret to you shows how good they are. Please, don’t lose a good man because of that. Try and convince your parents. Even if there is a curse on such an act, it is nothing that prayer cannot handle. After all, you may never tell the kind of generational curse that is affecting the next person you would meet if you leave this person. Not everybody would be that sincere to open up.

  4. Tufiakwa,this can’t happen in igboland.Your relationship is just 10 months.Please look for someone else since your parents does not approve it.Pls oooo na beg I dey beg you oooooo.Cousin marry cousin nbanu

  5. There is nothing wrong in marrying the guy. He is not your cousin. It is his parents that married as cousins which is not wrong in any way. If you are a Christian, curses have been taken away in Christ.

  6. Hello,

    Your fears are based on what you and your family believe as incest.

    Marrying a cousin is not incest expect you feel that cousin is as close as a direct biological sibling.

    And yes…cousins got married in the bible.

    Its really up to you…if you feel you cannot accept that from your man’s family…then move on.

    Its just cultural differences…I do not see any big issue here.

    Cheers

  7. I don’t think your fiance’s parent union is incest because in some cultures it happens and culture varies. I see nothing wrong with getting married to the family but you should make your choice on if you want to keep the relationship after all, it’s their marriage not yours.

  8. Cousin marrying cousin I have never heard of such a thing in my life before ooo. Sister if your mind cannot carry it please break up with the guy and move on. Marriage is for better for worse.

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