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Lock-Down: My Fiancee Won’t Listen To Me-Says I Am Over Reacting

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My fiancee said she wanted to come spend the second week of quarantine with me. I know we are not married but we are disciplined people,so I have no fear that anything will happen between us. I pray so,God help me..help us.

So she came to my place since Sunday evening. And since Sunday evening,we have been arguing about one thing and I am beginning to think it was a bad idea for her to come. But again,maybe it was a good idea for me to see the real person I want to get married to.

Since my fiancee came last Sunday evening,I have noticed that her hygiene levels are poor and for me,that is not acceptable. First,she does not take her bath in the morning. She says she is not going anywhere so why bath?

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I mean,the fact that you are not going anywhere is not enough reason not to bath until 7pm? I find that crazy. I personally take my bath twice a day:morning and night time..yet this my future wife will not bath until 7pm daily…

I told her that is not good and yet she does not do anything about that. We have argued for the last three days about this…I told her I expect my wife to be a very neat person,she said I am calling her a dirty person. Well,she is if she cannot bath…isnt that so?

Another annoying thing she does is,pile up dirty dishes in the sink. The first day she did that,I washed the dishes just so she can understand that I do not keep dirty dishes in my sink. By Tuesday,she did the same thing so I asked her to go wash the dishes.

This madam just responded by saying:she will do them in the evening just before bathing. I find her very dirty. I swear,I never knew her like that before. She made noodles for lunch and the kitchen was so dirty I could not stand it,I had to get up and clean it.

This morning,I have been thinking seriously cos her attitude is getting me worried. While I do not believe that house chores is only for a woman but I do not think that a woman who would not bath twice a day or wash dishes or keep her kitchen clean is my idea of a wife.

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I went into her room cos she is staying in the guest bathroom…and she has bucket soaked with her undies since Sunday. I walked away in disgust. How can someone be so dirty…a lady for that matter…and not even care?

Instead of her to take advise and clean up things immediately,she says I am over reacting…that she will clean them later. I mean,if you are like that,…cant you even pretend when you come to your man’s house? Obviously she cannot…

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If she continues like this,I may have to have a rethink on our marriage plans…do you think I am over reacting? My friends who know me,know how OCD I can be. I do not like dirt for one bit. Why will my beloved wife to be behave like this? Is this a sign or what?

 

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Jzhane
Jzhane
A passionate people and godly relationship advocate!...Trained Psychologist and Human Resources Practioner. A seasoned Marriage and relationship counsellor. A mother, wife, sister, friend and daughter. J

4 COMMENTS

  1. Hello,

    I think it was a good idea she came to live with you for a few days. And it was great she did not pretend,she was her true self.

    You are OCD…she is not..is that a deal breaker for you?

    For some,its not…I mean,if you take a census,many people have not been taking their morning baths since the lock down…that does not mean they are dirty people.

    As for the dishes and undies, that may be an indication of the fact that she does not see things the same way as you. And if she says you are over reacting…then she cannot appreciate your points.

    At this rate,all you can do is have a heart to heart conversation with her. You may need to show by example what you are trying to teach her.

    That means,keep lovingly trying to show her how important it is to keep things clean.

    If she wont learn after some time,maybe you should let her go.

    However,note that there are no perfect human beings out there. Sometimes if you love someone,you learn to cope with some of their little flaws.

    And if you can’t..then get out of their lives before its too late.

    Cheers.

  2. I’m sorry brother,but it’s true,we are not the same,try a little bit more to show her things in a different way especially when it comes to cleaning,oohps I’m little bit shocked because she’s a woman,she also have to cooperate,try to be clean.
    Another thing,communication is the key try to sit down with her and be honest with her,atleast now you saw what kind of person she is.

  3. I see both of you aren’t compatible in that aspect of cleanliness. You are actually right to be reconsidering marrying her

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