HomeAdviceOur Affair Made Her Happy Again & I Am Fighting For Her...

Our Affair Made Her Happy Again & I Am Fighting For Her Happiness-Pt 2

-

- Advertisement -

Click here to read Part 1

Part 2:

We both knew it was time to break up. It was very hard cos we were both very much in love. We tried but its not easy. She begged me to resign because she could not bear to see me each day. She promised to give me N2M and give me 100k every month until I find a new job…I told her no way. I will not quit, I love my job.

- Advertisement -

On my birthday,which was in February,she planned a surprise for me. Took me to a hotel,had a very nice time with me and gave me an offer of N3M to quit so she can focus on building her marriage.

In my anger,I refused. I told her I cannot be bought. She told me not to be stubborn,that she really wants to give her marriage a trial. But I was in love so I told her to deal with it.  I cannot let her go just like that. So,I will be used and dumped like that…no way.

Even with our argument,we made mad passionate love. She too knows that what we have is so strong. I do not know what to do to let go of her. She is like a drug in my system and all I want is to keep her in my arms. Anytime she tries to avoid me,we end up making love even in her office which is very dangerous as we could be caught.

And then,her husband found out about us and things took another level.

First,her husband tried to intimidate her to stop seeing me or end their marriage. He threatened to take their kids if she did not stop seeing me. That really scared her but I promised her we would fight him together. We even started talking to a lawyer for advise.

- Advertisement -

Then her family started. They were angry with her but later when they realized the truth,they mellowed. They realized this man was treating their daughter very badly until I showed up.Only her mother was against us.

I was madly in love and I felt I should fight for this love. I was ready to do anything against my values to keep this love. Her husband understood that I was not going to give up so he changed tactics. He showed up in my apartment and told me to back off his wife or he would deal with me. I told him he was a coward for letting his wife fall in love with another man.

- Advertisement -

That triggered him and things became dirty. I was hit by a car one day. I knew it was not coincidence. I sustained some scratches and I went to log a police report but they said I have to show proof that my boss husband was behind it.

I went to see my boss but I was told she didn’t want to see me. She blocked my phone. I waited to see her after work but she did not even let me see her at the car park. Now,I was worried. This was the first time she was treating me like this. I could not sleep that night.

The next day,the news had gone round the company that my boss put in her resignation letter. It dawned on me that she was sacrificing herself for me. She knew her husband would not stop to hurt me if she didn’t stop seeing me and the only way was for her to quit since I was not going to quit.

For the first time,I see how serious this is and I know if she quit her job,this man will make her suffer. Now,I am thinking of actually taking her offer of N3M and quiting my job. With the N3M I can start a business even before I get a new job. The only thing is: I am feeling very sad…it also feels not right to take money from someone I say I am in love with…I have not been myself ever since…I love her so much…I will never love any woman the way I love her…

Should I take the money and quit or don’t take the money and still quit?…or should I keep fighting for my love…I know she is only trying to be in that marriage for her kids…she does not love the husband the way she loves me…she said that…and we both know that is true.

Part of the reason I feel I should fight for her is because I want to send a message to men who think they can treat their wives anyhow. My mother was treated badly also. I will never allow any man treat my sisters this way. I know that I will be the best husband when I get married because I want my wife to feel blessed because she married me.

Sadly…my love is getting scared of her husband or what people might say…I really do not think anyone’s happiness should be hinged on what others think….but because I love her enough…I do not want her to be under pressure…I am some how confused..

Maybe if I don’t quit…we can continue fighting until she gets a divorce and frees herself from this man? They will definitely get divorced. Except I am not in the picture. We share a deep connection..she will never forget me in her life time.

This is the woman of mu dreams…Please advise me…to quit and forget her…or stay and keep fighting for our love?

Anonymous Email Post

 

Photo Credit:Fatherly

- Advertisement -

Click Here to join our Bullet Proof Relationship Facebook Group

Jzhane
Jzhane
A passionate people and godly relationship advocate!...Trained Psychologist and Human Resources Practioner. A seasoned Marriage and relationship counsellor. A mother, wife, sister, friend and daughter. J

18 COMMENTS

  1. It will be a misery for her if she leave the company so I think U have to take the money n leave the company if only u can promise yourself that u are not going to see her again

  2. If you really love her like you claim please let her go..stay alive for your own wife..she belongs to another.

  3. Please take the money n let her be,u love her yes,but she someone else’s wife, before something bad happens to u,take the money n quit the job, start up a business,invest or buy a property, n for the records,u are not selling ur love or anything, it’s just the circumstances surrounding the situation, please the money n bounce. good luck

  4. Please take the money and let her be. If she finally gets divorced fine but for now she is another man’s wife not yours cos you were only committing adultery with her no matter your genuine reason.

  5. Please take the money and leave,you have passed your message already and the husband has learned in the hard way,thanks for standing in the gap for the vulnerable women I must commend your act of bravery to this situation and thanks for been nice to the lady,is painful to loose her but take heart and move on.

  6. Take the money and quit, don’t see taking the money as something wrong, she cares about you that was why she brought up the idea, see it as a gift from her. I hope this isn’t late already because of the resignation letter

  7. Hmmmmm
    Leaving is best bro
    Your passionate relationship might not be what it seems later on if you end up wrenching her from her hubby……..your relationship seems (from your story) to be a hot,lustfilled relationship, (you made love almost everyday,everywhere,anytime not minding getting caught ).
    It is best enjoyed as temporal,i tell you!
    And please get over her soon,let her not cast a shadow over your love life, and please try to sever links/communication with her so you wont meet up later when youre engaged or marriage and fall prey…

    Let her fix her marriage,it might work,move on.
    And heal soon please!

  8. Hello young man,

    I think you need to clam down and stop fighting this. This is not your fight. This is not your wife. You are in the wrong here.

    So you made this lady happy again…well….God bless you….now can you let her be happy without you forcefully inserting yourself in her life?

    She has decided to move on,even with her imperfect marriage…most marriages are not perfect but they make it work even after a challenge.

    If a married man wants to make his marriage after his wife cheated..that man deserves an accolade.

    Let them work on their marriage. Maybe they need to see a therapist but that is not your business. They will work things out and even if they do not,its still not your business.

    I think you are stuck with a troubled childhood. Your mother’s marriage may have had issues but you cannot live your life based on your mother’s marriage.

    What you need to do is live your life as a better human being. When you marry your own wife,be a better man to her so she would never have a need to find solace in another man.

    Do not take the money too…it will make you look cheap.

    So….either you let her resign or you resign….either way….cut off all communication with her and its time to move on from her.

    God bless you.

  9. You said your mum suffered from you dad, so that why you claim to love and S.e.xing a married woman. Your story just reminded me of how we humans are wicked and covetous, if you know the magnitude of sin you have committed I bet you will fast for 1000 days for GOD to forgive you. You have slept with a married woman several times, you don’t love her at all man, its the S.e.x you love, drop the nonsense excuses. You even saw a lawyer to divorce the woman from her husband, it shows how wicked and greedy you are. Rethink and behave like a sensible man. Blessings

LEAVE A REPLY

Please enter your comment!
Please enter your name here

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.

RELATED ARTICLES

Must Read