True Life Story: All The Signs Of Cheating Are There But My Husband Says He Is Innocent- Pls Advise
Good day Lively Stones,
My heart is broken into a million pieces. I need help. I am a mother of three children within the ages of 3 to 8. I think my husband is cheating on me and I cannot bear the thought of it. Something happened that made me think there was no coincidence. I changed my house help in January frankly because the one I had, did not return from Christmas holiday.
The new girl that came was 23 years old. I wanted someone quite mature cos my children are very energetic. As usual, I carried out necessary tests on these girls, so I tested this particular girl. She tested negative. But when I searched her things, I saw a dildo in her bag. I was shocked. She told me that she has a fiancé, and that she uses the dildo so she will not cheat on him while she is away.
This girl if from the north. She said she will be getting married in 2 years. I almost sent her away but my husband said to me that, if she has a fiancé, then she would not be a wayward girl. That 23 using a dildo is no big deal, at least, she knows how to keep her urges under control with the device instead of sleeping with men. This made sense to me and so I hired her.
This girl is quite good at her job but I noticed she is also quick tongued. A bit argumentative. I don’t like to oppress people but I do not like being spoken to rudely, whether mildly or directly. We got into an argument and even though I found out she was right, I did not like how she spoke to me, so I decided she would have to leave. She left in April.
Its been hard to find a house help this time of the year, so we have been looking for a replacement. Four days ago, my husband was washing our cars downstairs when my 3 year old daughter started using his phone to play a game. The phone fell inside a bowl of water as she was playing, so her brother brought it to me. I was so afraid she had spoilt her father’s phone.
So I dried the phone and began to check if the phone was working well. That was when I noticed a WhatsApp message dropped. I mistakenly opened the message cos I really do not read my husband messages. I was shocked to find a video had come in and it was a video of a woman pleasuring herself with a dildo. I had to go through the person’s chat with my hubby to try and know it was …but all messages history was cleared.
Then, I chatted and said hi baby to the sender cos I don’t recognize the number. Its not saved with a name. Guess, who responded: she responded:daddy…do you like my pussy? I did this for you….it was the house girl that I chased out. My husband had been clearing all their chats so the only message was the video of her pleasuring herself.
I called her name…Susan (not real name) and she said…ah baby…no names o…before your wife sees it….please watch and delete it…tell me how it makes you feel watching me touch myself when I am thinking of you. By this time, I was boiling and crying.
Long story short, I replied her and said: Susan, this is Mrs O….she stopped chatting. My husband came up…I confronted him and he was like a deer in flashlights. he was caught but he quickly tried to recover. He said…that number has been sending me crazy messages…I do not know the no, that is why I delete the messages. You delete the messages but you did not block the no?
My husband denied any knowledge of having anything to do with Susan. He only said the strange no has been sending crazy messages…but this is the first time the person is sending a video and he has never responded or talked to her and he is just realizing it could be that Susan cos he never had her no before even when she lived with us.
My husband said he is telling the truth…that we should ask the Susan. The girl has refused to pick my call or my husband’s call since then. I tried using calling her with my other no but soon as she hears my voice, she cuts off. I have sent her several text messages, some cursing her but she did not reply any.
What is amazing me is my husband’s defiant attitude. He believes he has done nothing wrong. That he did not know the number and this is the first time the girl would send a nude video…that all other chats were crazy messages and he never replied, instead he cleared the chat. I do not believe my husband. That is why my heart is broken. What do I do?
What if they were having an affair while in my house…what if its going on behind my back? What should I do…should I just fold my hands and act like this is nothing? Clearly….the signs are there but I don’t know what to do….I am pained and I am angry. My husband has never given me a reason to suspect him before but what if I have been so blind to it all. Now, I am afraid of getting another house help. Please advice me.
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