True Life Story: Desperate Single Mother Offered Strange Five Year Contract With ‘Conditions’
Dear Lively Stones,
If you are a single mother with no support, how far can you go to feed your hungry child? Will you accept a strange offer that can tie you down for five whole years? Six years ago, I had to drop out of school as I got pregnant and had to do menial jobs to support myself until I had my baby. The baby daddy is not a responsible man. After a while, I left my baby with the dad’s mother and decided to come to Lagos to hustle.
I did all kinds of job until I landed a sales job in digital marketing. From there, I got a job in a small company to do office assistant/cleaner. The money was small especially as I was sending money every month to my grandma for to take care of my daughter.
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Its was then I became so desperate, that I decided to do hook up. This gave me more money and I was able to finish my OND with the money I got from hook up. The company later employed me as Officer and they are paying me 100k which is so small from what I was making from hook up but I was determined to leave that lifestyle behind, so I managed the 100k. Not long after, I met a married man who wanted me to be his side chick on regular allowance. At least, its better than hook up.
With that, I was able to get myself a room self contain and brought my daughter to stay with me. The man and I are not lovers, just s3x partners and I am ok with that as long as he pays me well. This went on for almost a year until I met my current boyfriend who I told everything about my life and he asked me to stop that life so he can take care of me. Our relationship was going well until my boyfriend asked me if we can film ourselves doing it, I said no.
This caused a disagreement between us cos he felt I should accept it, after all, I have done hook up and being a side chick before. Eventually, I broke up with him. Now, am back looking for a job again cos I left my former job cos there were delaying salaries for several months. I have been looking for a job ever since. The way things are, its getting very difficult to feed and watching my daughter stay without food is really heartbreaking.
I had no choice but to go back to the married man and begged to be his side chick again. He agreed but he said on one condition, that I will take an oath, that I will be his side chick for a contract period of 5 years. He will pay my rent, give me money and even pay my child’s school fees but it must be for 5 years before I can break free from the contract. I am trapped by this offer. Its very attractive but taking it means I will not be with any man for the next five years.
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I begged him for two years, he said no. This offer will be paying me almost 500k every month. No job can ever pay me that with my OND. Note, am the man’s only side chick. He is married to a woman who does not care, its like arranged marriage, so she does not care that her husband is cheating. He does not hide his side chicks from her. So, its not like I am a home wrecker but tying myself to this man for the next five years seems too much.
Its just that the offer is good and he is a generous man, he can decide to increase the money anytime. I am a hungry young single mother….is this offer ok, after all, its safe and secure. I only feel sad trading my freedom for the next five years. By that time, I will be around 29 years old. Please advise me. No insults, I am just trying to survive. And if anyone has a job for me, that can pay my rent and feed my child, I will abandon this offer.
Please post, maybe my destiny helper will see this and locate me. Life has been so unfair to me, I have been struggling since as a teenager. I am tired of struggling, I just want a better life. Because of my OND, its only jobs that pay not more than 100k I get offers and I have not even been getting offers. In this hard economy…. I have no handwork, I only know olosho work, its like a curse but maybe use this curse to pay my bills for the next five years?
Will it not be worth it?
Anonymous
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Been a single mom is challenging cos am one people especially men take advantage of you all the time this offer is juicy and a tricky one yes 5years is a long time but right now it’s better than sleeping with random strangers every day not that Been a side chick is good either but the odds are against you so I would take it gather what I can this 5 years plus you are still young set up yourself (business) go back to school learn a skill so that once 5years is over you won’t need any man then you can stand on your own before you know it the time is up am Been realistic here cos I know you will choose the latter
Please find out the kind of oath that ur man is talking about,if it’s a blood oath ,then buy all means don’t take it. U must ask thorough questions embarking on that journey,so that u don’t get stocked o,that’s my own advice o
If everyone was to give an excuse for doing something wrong ,I tell u no lies many would all have something to say to back it up ,poverty is not good but for a woman to think sleeping with other men is just her way she sees solution then there might be a small problem ,there are women who have deliberately chosen to move out of their predicament without sleeping with other men , although it is a difficult option,they still find a way out .
*Where there is a will ,there is a way .*
I think for the woman in the story her mind is probably made up ,she is only seeking justification and that justification is birth that she isn’t really seeing the sleeping with him as her only problem ,but that she would do that for five years
What if he made it three years ,who knows she wouldn’t complain ??
So her primary problem isn’t just poverty .
Anyway to her ,I just want to say that once oath comes into the picture things are normally not going to be as easy as it is .
For example,A man and a woman might be in love with one another ,once they enter into an oath (blood covenant ), sometimes they begin to face a series of challenges that test their love for one another ,which they are not prepared for before now .
So it might be the case of this woman ,once she enters into the oath ,let her not think it would just be so easy like that ,he might ask her to do the most despicable thing to please him ,infact within that time she might be tempted more than ever ,infact guys would ask her out severally ,this is what happens when oath is involved,u would be tempted strongly to act otherwise ,but they don’t know
The question is ,is she willing to pay the sacrifice for that five years ,is she ready
Remember if everyone was to have an excuse for escaping poverty ,many people would be either stealing or prostituting ,we sometimes often choose our means of escaping either the good way or the bad way ,the choice is ours ?
I will advice you not to accept the offer because you might miss your real husband within that 5 years and you will get so used to the lifestyle and will be difficult to live a normal life after the 5 years. What if that your sugar daddy is doing dirty business to get his money ♀️♀️. Accept that 100k job again if you see then start doing little business like making snacks, doing laundry job or cleaning job for people as a side hustle. You might even get a boyfriend who will be paying your bills small small, it might not be as much as that of your sugar daddy. Just manage what you have and don’t live beyond your limits.
Be very careful with the men coming around you so that they will not molest your baby girl behind your back because pedophiles and rapist are very real o, they are now more in Nigeria.
Dear poster,this offer might be juicy but dangerous…. Find a job and start small,the Lord shall send you help…. Your own husband will locate you,amen….
Don’t be enticed or deceived by what your man friend is offering,this is dangerous,be careful!
Be wise and be watchful
I need to be direct with you.
You should have added vocational knowledge to your certificate. It would have given you a side hustle.
And it’s not too late. You can learn one hand work that you know is viable now.
You need to kill that mindset that you must be at the mercy of men to survive.
That so-called contract you want to sign will end in regret. With the level at which evil is skyrocketing in the society, are you sure you will still have a life at the end of that 5 years?
Think about your life and that of your child.
Get up and stand for yourself and not bending over for one man to useless.
Have sense.
Consider your worth and the potential emotional consequences. Ask yourself:
Can I truly be happy and fulfilled in a relationship with someone who is already committed to someone else? Will signing a contract for 5 years truly solve my financial struggles or limit my future opportunities? Remember at anytime due to his influence and wealth you can be cheated on, What are my non-negotiables in a relationship, and does this arrangement align with them? 5years is a lot and anything can happen that might not span out well leading to more distress and regret be wise, you can take your job of 100k and plan yourself financially, and living within your means, who knows the right guy might show up within those years. Bless you
Remember, your well-being and your baby’s needs are paramount.
Hello can i be honest with u….. please endure and find some form of vocation to sustain yourself. It is an oath of releasing your destiny for 500k…it is not easy yes feeding is hard yes…..so is how expensive your tomorrow is…..be strong for your daugther…..you will have money to deal with needs..but someone will have bought your future for 500k…..
What if he start taking.advantage if your daugther will u be able to forgive yourself.
Turn to God he will help u more than u imagin
He knows just turn to Jesus
Can I tell you how these stories usually end? If one takes the oath and ties oneself for 5 years to him, in the process one will meet a dashing young man who wants to marry soon, one may cheat, the repercussion maybe death, insanity etc.
Please endure now, pray to God, search for a job etc. don’t jeopardise your future.
Dear Poster,
This trap is beyond you but to your daughter.
Don’t make such commitment to anyone no matter the payment or offers.
With oath in sight, run for your life.
Run away and never look back.
Convenience is desirable but the foundation and price to pay is important and critical.
If you don’t wantnto return to him or olosho, tell God and He will help you in ways you never imagined in this life.
Trust God ro have your best interest at heart and has a better planf for your life.
Ifnyiu day yes, you are actually prolonging your suffering and endorsing the curse in your life and family.
Remember, You have a child…it is inevitably a seed you see planting for her to harvest similar experience.
Be careful. Be wise.