True Life Story: I Lied To My Boyfriend The First Time- Should I Confess?
Hi Lively Stones,
Please don’t judge me. I did something wrong, but I want to make things right. I just don’t want to loose my man in the process. About 4 months ago, I met someone through my friend. It was a fun hangout and we hooked up after all. Ade (not real name) is into exports, a well to do guy and he was also looking for some fun.
After our first meeting, he invited me over to his house for a night over. During my stay, I noticed he kept alot of hard currency around. He also gave me 500 dollars. I do not know what moved me, but I took some dollars from his wardrobe. I picked up pick pocket habits from a young age, you would never catch me but I have not done so in many years until now.
The next day, Ade called me and asked if I took money from his house when I came over. I pretended to be angry and shouted at him. Told him off. Telling him that I can return the 500 dollars he gave me if he thinks I am that cheap to steal from him. Ade apologized and the conversation ended that way.
Like two weeks later, he started chatting me again, asking for us to hang out. He also kept apologizing for suspecting me. That he had to sack his house boy cos he is the only one that cleans his room. I felt horrible that someone else was sacked for my fault.
Truly, because of that, I did not want to have anything to do with Ade anymore. But the more I played hard to get, the harder he tried. On valentine’s day, he surprised me with so many gifts. My friends called me a fool for not wanting to date him. They even threatened to take him if I do not want him.
So since Valentine, we have been dating and its looking like its getting very serious. Ade spends alot on me. He spoils me every time. He already is talking about meeting my family. He told me he had fallen in love with me on the first of this month. Now, I think I love him as well but my conscience is pricking me so bad for stealing from him the first time I spent the night in his apartment.
Please I need your help. Before this relationship goes any further: do you think I should continue to keep quiet about the incident or should I tell him? Maybe he can forgive me if I am honest but what if he dumps me after or even arrests me? What I stole that night was almost 300 dollars and some pounds.
One time, he talked about the house boy he sacked for stealing He said he regrets sacking the boy but since he could not find anyone else to blame, he could not continue to let the boy work because he values loyalty most importantly in life.
Ade is stinking rich. With a good heart. Maybe he does not even miss the money so why bother tell him right? I don’t know why I am still nervous and sometimes, it makes me shaky when am around him. I do not like lies in relationship if I am serious with the person. I can even tolerate cheating but not lying. Or maybe I should wait a little more…to see where the relationship is truly heading before I say anything?
Please help me decide : to either keep quiet or tell Ade and beg his forgiveness? I may be a thief but I have a good heart. Few days ago, I asked him if I did something wrong and I confess to him, that will he forgive me…he said yes…as long as I did not intentionally mean to hurt him. He thinks maybe I cheated on him…do you think its a sign that he can forgive me on this because, I did not hurt him anyway from stealing his dollars right?
I need to make things right, I do not want him to think I am a crazy thief, or maybe I am with him for his money…please advice me how to go about it without loosing my man.
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