True Life Story : Mother Who Abandoned Her Children Now Wants To Come Back
Dear all,
I need your advise. My mom is trying to divide my home. When I was 9 years old, my mom abandoned my dad with us and married someone else. My dad loved my mom so much that he refused to get married for almost 2 years. He met my step mom who was very loving and very kind to me and my younger sister. She took us as her own and even did better than our mom. Our mother abandoned us for several years but step mom was the best.
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Few years ago, we learnt my mom divorced her husband and was now single. After 10 years of abandoning us, my mom started trying to get back in our lives. I was very hurt and did not want anything to do with her, only my younger sister was trying to give her a second chance. Now, I am in my 300 level in university. My mother has been asking me to come and spend sometime with her so grudgingly, myself and my sister decided to spend some time with her.
Our dad drove us to her city and I expected him to go back same day or stay in a hotel, instead, he stayed with us in my mom’s house that day until it was late. I was wondering what this man was about to do. Surprisingly, my dad stayed back in my mom’s house that night. I was upset and asked my dad the next morning, why he did that. He is married to my step mom who is a kind and loving soul, why would you spend the night with your ex?
My dad explained that his love for my mother would never go away even though she left him for another man for 10 whole years. My dad left in the morning but you need to see the way my mom was all over him, kissing and hugging him. I was disgusted. But my younger sister was happy cos she always prayed for my parents to reconcile. My mother has a son with her ex and the boy is with the father. Typical, she always leave her children with their fathers. I am very upset that I could not stay the vacation with my mother. We had so many arguments. I told her she was selfish and reckless.
Why would she abandon us for 10 years? Why would she come back now to destroy my step mom’s marriage? My mom is upset that I am supposed to be happy she is coming back to my dad instead I am taking my step mom’s side. My mom called me a bad girl and a witch. I started crying and told her I want to go back to my dad’s place. I did not enjoy my stay there at all. I eventually cut the trip short and went back home. Coming back, I have refused to speak to my dad.
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I cannot bear the fact that he cheated on step mom. My dad says I am a child, that I will not understand. I am 19 years old. I darn well understand. My mom is using my dad’s feelings to take advantage of him. And my dad is blinded by his feelings to hurt my step mom who has no idea what is happening behind her back. I am so upset, should I tell my step mom or let her find out herself? I love my step mom so much, she is better than my mom 1,000 times.
The fact that I love my step mom more than my mom, does that make me a bad daughter? Am I being disloyal to my mom? Should I tell my step mom? I am not happy, I wish my mom would disappear from where she came from. I dont want her…I dont need her…she was never there when I needed her….how can she just come back and try to scatter the home that was my peace for the last 10 years? Why are men so gullible….why is my dad cheating on such a good woman?
I need answers and advise….please make it make sense for me…I feel so much anger and rage and h@tred for my mom right now. Does that make me a witch like my mom said? What do I do please?
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Dear poster,I understand how you feel but please just be patient…
Don’t tell your step mum for now in order not to worsen the situation,keep observing for now and see how things unfold…. It’s well with some women sha
Dear poster,
Spilling the secret would hurt 3 adults + maybe 2 children, but your step mum would be hurt the most.
I understand that being unable to spill it also hurts you more.
My advice is that you should watch and see how things unfold.
After all they are 3 grown adults.
Your step mum will soon know about it provided you and your sibling are not aiding your Dad in the act.
Hello sis
Take a chill, approach the issue calmly by focusing more on your dad…he is the weak one…have a father daughter conversation letting him know how bad you feel about his cheating on his wife that your mum is using his weakness over him…that you dont like it…that is that an example he want you to follow…that you wont interfere but he should know his wife deserve better……
Now please you have to be the adult by learning from the situation ranging from your mum to your dad and the step mum….keep loving your stepmum by praying to God to intervene and interfere in the situation…..i have this to say when a man is hooked to a woman it always a tough call to get the man unhooked……..my 2cent again is face your dad to stop cheating in a matter of fact way
Dear poster It sounds like you’re going through a really tough and emotional situation. It’s completely understandable that you’re feeling angry and confused.
Firstly, acknowledge that your feelings are valid. It’s normal to feel hurt and betrayed by your parents’ actions. However, but consider the consequences of your actions before reporting your dad to your step-mum.
Your mum has returned after a long absence, and you may have mixed emotions about her presence.
Your dad has made mistakes, and his actions might have hurt your step-mum even if she’s not aware presently, because she has a positive influence in your life.
But on the second thought Your step-mum may already be aware of your dad’s infidelity, or she may not want to know.
Before taking any action, consider having an open and honest conversation with your step-mum about your feelings and concerns. Approach the conversation with empathy and respect her boundaries.
Also, seek support from a trusted adult, counselor, to help you navigate these complex emotions and relationships. They can provide guidance and support to help you process your feelings and make informed decisions.
Remember that you deserve love, care, and respect from all the adults in your life. Don’t hesitate to prioritize your mental and emotional health and seek help when needed. Wishing you all the best it will be well by God’s grace
I salute the courage of this 19 years old girl. However I sensed a lot of danger if she want to prosecute the war.
Her mother, father and sister are on the same divide. On the other divide she is standing only with the step Mom. If the pressure becomes intense the step Mom will atmost divorce making her to stand alone.
My stake is she is too unmatured and inexperience to presecute the fight between two adults who happen to be her biological parents in erotic relationship. Let her remain mute and allow the step Mom fight her battle. Who will even pay her school fees if she exposed them and the Dad refuse to pay her school fees. Will the step Mom be buoyant enough to take care of her.
Let her go about her support of the step Mom with caution. Maybe the step Mom was the reason why the Mom left the marriage. I presume she was too small to know the reason of their divorce.
I can see she is a very decent girl that hate cheating and unfaithfulness in marriage. However she lack the locus to control the cheating ability of her parents. Maybe when she finally get married she will try to control the husband.
This are the type of people that get so frustrated and heart breaks in marriage. The type of loyalty and faithfulness she feel she can get from a man is non existing. With her attitude I predict doom and disappointment for her since her concept of marriage and what she expect from it seem elusive.
My sister, you are not a witch at all, she is pained she cannot manipulate you against your step mom, she knows you are not stupid to fall for her, so she is pained.
You said, why are men gullible, you are right, your father is being gullible, how do some men think? I’m so disgusted by this silly acts from your father.
Yes, tell your step mum, quickly, your father has been ungrateful and unfaithful to her. Please, tell your step mum all these, I think they have been sexing even before now, but you only found out now. Some men can be so silly, very disgusting.
Do not go to see her again, don’t try to have any relationship with her at all, no matter what anyone says to you. You can see she is evil and called you a witch, she is an irresponsible woman, I guess her husband dumped her when he found out how evil she is, now your father I being foolish for her even after all she did to him.
You will be fine sister, please, don’t have anything to do with her at all, run very far from her, and sit your sister down and educate her on this.
I wish you well.