True Life Story: My Fiancé Is Acting Very Strange After Our Engagement
Good afternoon mummy you are truly a blessing, even though I’m the only child of my parents, I feel I have a big sister in you. And that’s why I have come to you. My story is long because I don’t want to leave any details behind pls bare with me.
Last year I fasted for the whole of November and told God my burden and worries about getting married, even though I’m 26yrs and a Graduate, I feel I need a serious relationship in my life. I declared to myself during my prayer sessions that as I was going for Christmas celebration I will be favored and find someone, I did that prayer with faith.
Then before going for Christmas I met a Fulani Christian who works as state Security (DSS) he is well to do, but I wasn’t convinced with my spirit, I traveled to my hometown for Christmas celebration and was optimistic that it was going to be different. Then on the 27th of December I had dream in which I was given an engagement ring and when I woke up.
I told my little cousin about it and we all laughed at it and continue with our activities, then on 29th my dad was to be given award for something, family and friends were all at attendance and that was were Collins’s (not real name) met me, he told his sister about it and on 1st January she called me and told me about it. I asked her to bring him along to my house since I will be going back to my base the next day which they came.
Now this his sister happens to be my dad’s younger brother’s wife. They came and I gave him listen ears, he told me about his intentions and before I knew it, he proposed right there, with the same exact rings I saw in my dreams, it took me few minutes to think, and I remember vividly about my dream and accepted him with faith, not minding if he is rich or not. But later found out that is does not have a job but he is Bsc graduate and was able to build a very beautiful house with agricultural business and can take care of himself and start a family.
However, at that point I never knew he was related to my uncle’s wife it was thereafter I got to find out. We came back home and tried to convince my parents about him, I equally told them about my dreams and that I was sure of him, they were not in support at first but along the line they both accepted when families made research and find out it’s not an abomination, that we can marry if we r compatible.
So around May he came with his people and paid my bride price according to our church tradition and everything went on smoothly. And we are hoping to get married next year April by Gods grace. But I find it strange when he started portraying some attitudes like always claiming he is right, each time we have issues he never accept he his at fault and try to twist it in his favor, the worst is that my birthday came and he didn’t show up.
He only posted me and called me to wish me happy birthday but didn’t show up with the excuse that his elder’s sister son who happens to be my cousin came to celebrate with me, that why will he come, so he got angry and never showed up, and I got embarrassed because my mum noticed it but didn’t say anything. but I saw it from her facial expression.
So I gave him this girly attitude for a week, though we talk but we don’t vibe the way we used to, just to show him how sad I was, and when I comforted him he started talking to me anyhow, telling me that he doesn’t care whatever I choose, he has lost interest in getting married, I was so emotional and I don’t know when I started crying, I told him he doesn’t even know how I’m feeling, and he said he doesn’t care and if I like let it kill me. and I should stop blackmailing him with my crocodile tears.
Now I feel scared to talk to my parents about this, how do I even start from when I was still d same person that make them to accept him, what should I do, I’m really not happy with him, and he doesn’t feel remorseful about all the hurtful words he said to me, what should I do, please I need advice. Thank you.
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