True Life Story: My Husband Is A Serial Cheater & His Bad Behavior Is Rubbing Off On Me Too-Pt 2
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After I came out, I met my driver in my room. That look was back on his face…he dragged me and whispered…you better fire me now…cos I cannot hold myself anymore…I tried to push him away but the next thing he did was pull me in closer and started kissing me…I was scared cos I thought the door was open and my husband will come in any minute…he did not listen to my pleas to stop….he kept saying….tell me you dont want it…I will stop.
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At first, I said, I dont want it but he said you are lying and so I said…ok I want it but not here in my room…he did not listen and he went on. My struggle reduced. I only told him to make sure the door is locked. what happened next is better not explained. Since that day, we have been sneaking to have s3x and its getting more and more dangerous and I feel guilty every time it happens yet I cannot control myself to stop it.
Every time I try to fire him, something happens: either his house rent is due or he needs money to send to his father who is sick. I am helpless in this matter. I am even helping him look for another job. The truth is, I really feel terrible cos of his wife. I know how it feels to be cheated on. So after I paid the last salary in August, I gave him extra 2 months salary and told him to stop coming to work.
In shock, he could not believe himself….he begged and promised not to sleep with me any more. In my naiveness, I told him, even if he wants to stop, that I cannot stop. That I can’t stop wanting it with him. After a week later, I received a call from the wife, she was crying and begging me to give her husband back his job. That since he was fired, he has not been himself. That he has been depressed, always drinking or sleeping and has refused to go look for another job.
I told the wife I cannot do this anymore, I am sorry. I thought that was the end of the matter. The wife went to beg my husband. That was how my husband found out I fired him. My husband asked me why I fired him without telling him, I tried to say the guy was rude and unprofessional but my husband said I should hire him back, that this is not the time to fire anyone in this current economic situation. He then told me that this driver has only said good things about me to him and so I should not fire him.
Oh my God. If only my husband and his wife knew the real truth behind all these. I don’t know what else to say or do…cos my husband says, his decision is final. That my driver must resume back to work and that I should never think of replacing him. My driver resumed last week, he prostrated and thanked my husband for giving him his job back. As we drove to work that morning, my driver said to me, madam, this is the will of God, don’t fight it.
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I need your advise….the goat has entered the lion’s den again and I have no power to do anything about it. When am around him…am shaking …I now sit in the back seat but that has not stopped the bad thoughts from returning to my mind. One of the crazy thoughts running in my head is: what if my husband is trying to set me up? Afterall, he initially sent this guy to spy on me…why is he insisting after I fired him, that he must come back?
I cannot imagine what will happen if he knows this driver is f#cking his wife….its easy for society to forgive a cheating man but not a cheating wife…Its obvious his behaviour has rubbed off on me. Yes, I know I intend to leave this marriage one day but I have not saved enough to leave yet. If my marriage ends sooner than am ready, I don’t know what I will do.
I need advise on how to control myself and stop this man from seducing me…him just being around me…makes me very very nervous. This is a cry for help.
Anonymous
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Dear poster,you can now see why your husband can’t stop cheating,huh!
The same way you can’t control your feelings around your driver is the same way your husband can’t control anything under skirt,this simply means both of you lack discipline and self control over your body….
What’s hard to put this man in his place? What’s hard to seperate work from pleasure? What’s hard to let him know enough is enough and even if you need to have sex,must it be someone whom your husband personally hired to spy on you ,huh! Must it be your driver,like I can’t seem to wrap my head around this mess you’re doing with your driver….. I pray you’re smart enough for your husband not to suspect or even catch you red-handed,I pray you just stop this shit this minute and focus on your child and career……
Why do you want to move out of the house since you’re also doing same thing your oga is doing? You both are now in a competition to win cheating award okwaya…..
Nne,please you’re in control of your body,you deserve better, rather than cheat with a spy your husband employed, divorce and remarry and I also pray this same driver doesn’t blackmail you or even have evidence whatsoever against you…
Peace
Dear poster,
It is said that TWO WRONGS DOES NOT MAKE A RIGHT and that’s true. To be honest with you, you can’t stop what you’re doing and you can never stop it. Do you know why? It is because you don’t have the STRENGTH to stop it.
If you did, you would have stopped it but you didn’t which means as long as you are vulnerable, you fall into that SIN. The only way you can stop this ACT is to SINCERELY go before God, CONFESS THIS SIN to him, ask him to FORGIVE you and CLEANSE you with his BLOOD. When you have done that GENUINELY FROM YOUR HEART, now ask him for STRENGTH to deal with that issue. It’s the same thing with your husband too he doesn’t have the STRENGTH to stop it too.
So take the bull by the horns NOW and stop SATAN from wrecking your home. If you decide to leave your marriage now, what do you think will happen to you? Don’t say NOTHING because you’ll be DECEIVING yourself. Take responsibility and FIGHT! If you still love your husband, then help him because he can’t help himself. He is powerless.
FIGHT for your marriage,
FIGHT for your children,
FIGHT for your husband,
FIGHT to Keep your home.
It will not happen by CHANCE or by wishing it. You’ve got to FIGHT!
God bless you!
Shalom Shalom!!
Its always funny, how women will never hold themselves accountable for the same sins they curse their husbands for. The title of your post should be, I committed adultery too, lol.
I put it to you, you know what you were doing all the times, he was flirting with you, making senseless jokes with you, he was even rubbing your thighs, fingering you, and you committed adultery many times with him.
It bothers me a lot how we got here taking adultery as a light sin. That useless driver, doesn’t love you, he is a fool. He betrayed your husband by sleeping with his wife, this is how married women get killed by their so called side cocks. This is why I always tell men, don’t trust women, they are easy to deceive.
You are exactly what you call your husband, because you have done adultery many times too, you are just like him. Do you know how terrible the sin you have been committing is? You have been sleeping with a married man, that is murder, is this how to support women like you women claim?
You need to change your ways sis, you should seek forgiveness from GOD, adultery not just with an unmarried man but with a married man, you are in serious trouble. Do people know how grievous adultery is, not to talk of doing it with a married person. Please, change your ways sister.
Tell your husband, but tell a person he respects, and don’t try to play the victim and lie, say it as it is, but I doubt you will do it, you will just say you did it once or twice, and you were vulnerable bla bla bla, like women always do.
To the men that sleep with married women. Don’t worry, one day, you will meet your end.
I wish you well.
My opinion is now you are in the web of adultery. Simple go to God say sorry and confront your fears.
Let him remain the driver. No chatting with him again.
Focus on your marriage or what remains of it.
Let God help you in your decisions
Tough as it were God is tougher