True Story: My Ex Is In Trouble-How Do I Help Her Get Away From Her Dangerous Husband?
Hello Lively Stones,
I need to share something and I need your opinion about it. I caught my cousin and girlfriend in bed like 9 years ago. Then we were still in school. I lived off campus. I lived lavishly for a student, I come from a well to do background. Having girls around me was easy but I really liked this girl Ama (not real name).
So, you can imagine my disappointment when I caught her f*cking my own cousin in his room in our hostel.I was more embarrassed when I found out the entire hostel knew both of tnem have been f*cking all the while. Of course, we broke up and my relationship with my cousin was strained for many years.
This cousin of mine, Ejike, for some reason has serious jealousy for me. His dad and my dad are siblings and he always likes to show that his dad is rich like my dad but his dad’s money no reach my pops at all. Any ride I got, he will get it or try and get something higher. The competition is crazy. I think he got into same school as me just to prove a point.
Well, I fashied him…its been nine years and I heard Ejike married Ama like four years ago. I was in the US and I didn’t attend his wedding. We are not really in speaking terms. I was married and now divorced with an American, we have two kids together. I live and work in the states.
Last year, my grand ma died and we all came back for her burial in January. It was a huge event cos my people are big shots. It was like a one week carnival. Of course, I saw Ejike and his wife Ama, she still looked pretty but a big fat. They have kids, am not sure how many.
Ama approached me for my number and I told her I would never give her. She later came to my hotel room one very early morning. I was surprised to see her, she begged me to help her, that she needs help and there is no one she can go to. I told her, to meet me in the hotel restaurant, she said no, that she does not want Ejike to see her talking to me.
Ama looked scared and for a minute, what came to my mind was, maybe her life was in danger, so I allowed her in my room. Once in, she knelt down and started to beg me. Saying she knows she offended me but she was under a spell. That Ejike has never liked me and was really jealous of me back in school.
That Ejike used charms on her, she fell hopelessly in love but now, she has realized herself. Ejike is not in love with her. He beats her and threatens her and her family. That he made them and can destroy them cos he has money. He has 2 side chicks who have children for him too. Ejike has a strong lust for power and money and can do anything to get it.
Ejike’s wife kept telling me horrible things that Ejike told her about me and my family. She wants to divorce him but she is afraid he might hurt her or her kids or her family. She then revealed that when Ejike convinced her to sleep with him, she was pregnant with my child but Ejike took her to get an abortion.
Ama was shaking as she was telling me all these but I was too confused. Why is she telling me all these? Is it because she needs my help to leave Ejike or what? why tell me of a pregnancy she had for me more than 9 years ago and aborted to f*ck my cousin? I felt sorry for her and told her there was nothing I could do.
That was when Ama took off her clothes and started trying to seduce me. Well, she is a sight to behold and she promised to appreciate me very well if I help her. Help her do what? Help her get papers so she can run away with her children to the US. I told her I could never do that cos apart from the fact that she is my well hated cousin, she is my ex…
How do I explain that I helped her escape her marriage? And if Ejike hates me that much, imagine how much more he will when he finds out his wife escaped with me? Ama showed me pictures of her bruises when Ejike beat her up. They were gory. I told her I would help her get a good lawyer to take Ejike to court but she said she would rather commit suicide that take Ejike to court in Nigeria.
Ejike is friends with the big government officials in Nigeria. Ama fears, Ejike will use his influence against her and deal with her if she went to the police or sue him in court. I understand what she means, this country is f8cked up….the rich control everything and she wont stand a chance.
I promised to find a way to help her. That made me go talk to my father about it. My dad after listening to me, cautioned me not to get involved. That Ejike and his dad, who is brothers are deadly people. That Ejike’s father is even worse. Ejike’s father beat his mother until the woman ran away when Ejike was still very little. My dad told me his brother is deadly, so I should stay away from them. Through out the burial, I kept avoiding Ama. A few days to when I left, I didnt see her anymore. They had left apparently for their home in Abuja.
A few days later, Ama sent me a video, she filmed herself, Ejike had beaten her again and r*ped her as well. Ama’s mother then called me, the woman was crying and begging me to save her daughter. That I am the only man her daughter ever loved, that she was not herself for many years and the family is helpless because Ejike is a rich and powerful man.
I felt rage and I truly thought I should intervene but I do not know how without tipping off Ejike and unleashing his wrath. I decided to help her get American visas to travel. So, I asked her to send me pictures of her and her children to me.
I had to fly to Abuja to meet her. She met me in my hotel room to hand over the pictures. Ama looked so lean, I held her just to comfort her and before I knew it, we were kissing. I know this was dangerous but I just wanted to make her feel better. We made love. I suddenly felt an urgent urge to protect her, afterall, she was my girlfriend before she was bewitched.
I promised Ama I would do everything in my power to help her. Maybe it was the s3x…I was suddenly very drawn to her and I was no longer afraid of what Ejike might do. I got an agent that has been working on her visa and for her children’s’ visa. I couldn’t tell anyone what I was doing until I returned to the states and confided in a very good friend of mine, Charles.
Charles is advising me to end every connection with Ama, he says its a trap. That even though I am not afraid of Ejike, but that if I help her, Ejike will stop at nothing to destroy me or her or anyone we love. Isnt that a bit too dramatic? I know there is a risk but should I then abandon a woman who was once in love with me and was jazzed to love someone who did not want to see me happy?
If you were in my shoes, what would you do? Would you help an ex that was constantly being abused both physically and s3xually or just leave her to her faith just because you are afraid of what her abuser may do? My plan was for her to come her in US, settle down, send Ejike a divorce and we could see what the future holds for both of us after.
I cannot say the idea of getting back at Ejike has not crossed my mind. She was the love of my life that was stolen from me…isn’t it payback worth it? Is the life of Ama not worth it? He even killed my unborn child…why cant I steal back what Ejike stole from me? Yes, they are married , she is his wife I get it but she is under duress…possibly charmed and her life is in danger and everyone is too scared to help her.
Ama should be safe in America…what more damage can Ejike possibly do…I am angry and I want to save Ama from a horrible person who has never liked me from day one…what is so wrong about that…My ex is in trouble and I am the only one who can help her. I just need your input on the matter.
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