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True Story: Things Are Getting Out Of Control From A Secret Affair

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True Story: Things Are Getting Out Of Control From A Secret Affair

Hi Lively Stones,

I am in a dilemma. I love my fiancé so much but I have betrayed him and he has no idea. The guilt of what I have done is killing me. My boyfriend and I have been together for three years. In 2020, he lost his job and things have been really tough for him. We had planned to get married in December 2021 but his financial challenges was what made us move it to Easter in 2022.

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Last year, I got a placement to do my youth service as a Front Desk Officer in a construction company. Two months later, during my birthday, my birthday was celebrated in the office when the HR bought cake and everyone celebrated me. That made my MD to notice me.  He later called my extension line and asked me to see him. When I got to his office, he handed me an envelope that contained dollars. He said it was for my birthday.

I knelt down to beg him and he said he wants to make sure I get what I deserve if I play my card well. I was still wondering but he make it clear. He said he noticed I am a very intelligent girl and he wants to reward me but there is no vacancy in the company, but if I work as his special assistant, he can add some allowances to me and later retain me in the company after my NYSC.

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This was my dream, to get a job after service because everyone knows how hard it is to get a job after service in this country. I quickly agreed and he said, anytime he has something for me to do, he will call me. I said ok. Excitedly, I called my fiancé and told him. He was happy cos he also thought I was getting noticed and rewarded for my contribution.

The next day, around 4.30, the MD called me and asked me to wait after work, that he has some work for me to do. He said he would make sure his driver drops me after incase its difficult for me to get transport. Around 5.45pm, the MD called me again to come to his office. He said I should not come with my phone.

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On getting to the MD’s office, he locked the door and asked me to sit close to him. He then began to touch my breasts, I began to withdraw but he told me to relax. That he just wants me to help him in some personal areas and he will give me all the money I need.

I told him I was not interested if what the special assistant job is for me to be messing with him. He then said, well, if you refuse, you may not have get retained after your service anymore. I got scared and started begging him cos I needed the job. He then brought out his p*nis asking me to suck it. I did not know why I was so scared but I did it. He then went ahead to have S** with me in his office.

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The amount of money he gave me after was $300. That is how, I started having S** with the MD. The S** was in his office, his car, sometimes in the hotel. I began to long for him cos he was f*cking better than my fiancé. I lost my senses in the process.

I got very confused. I think I stared developing feelings for the MD. He  is a young man in his 40s. He is very handsome and its getting hard to even resist his charm. He is married but his family are abroad. I know he cannot marry me but I also do not want to be a side chick.

Two months later, he didn’t even wait for me to finish my service year, he gave me full employment. He placed me on a monthly salary of N400k. I felt very bad sleeping with my MD but the job offer was too tempting. I was even sending money (100k)  to my mom every month from what he gave me.

My fiancé even called him to say thank you. My plan was to work there for like a year, save enough money and leave but I got pregnant in November last year and the bad part was I was not sure who was responsible for the pregnancy cos I am also active with my fiancé. To avoid confusion, I told the MD and he organized for me to have an abortion.

The abortion made me very sick and I was afraid for my life. I knew I could possibly get pregnant again if I continued f*cking the MD and I cannot have another abortion. So, I told my fiancé that I wanted to resign at the end of January 2022 but he didn’t understand. He said no, that I cannot resign because he just got a job that pays only 120k and he is hoping with my job and salary, we can save enough to get a 2 bedroom apartment and get married in Easter this year.

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We tried to explain that I am not happy with the job cos its demanding but my fiancé just dismissed me saying, I should stop being a baby. That work is hard everywhere. Now, since December, I have not seen my period. I am very scared I might be pregnant. Initially, I thought it was because of the abortion I had in November. So, I did not see my period in December and January has ended.

So, I took a pregnancy test two days ago, thank God it was negative but the fear and guilt that is consuming me right then, I think its better I resign without listening to my fiancé. I want to put in my resignation on Monday and tell my fiancé after I had done it. He sure will be very mad but I don’t see any other option. At least, I have saved up to 2M naira from this job. We can start with that.

The only other option is tell him that the MD is harassing me S**ually but I am afraid that he may find out that I actually got pregnant for the MD and aborted it. I am worried that he may not believe me the MD gave me no choice….because the affair has been going on for almost 6 months. I suspect people are beginning to talk about me and the MD. I do not want to be embarrassed in the long run.

I need your advice on what to do.

Anonymous

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9 COMMENTS

  1. Dear poster, it’s best you resign and end anything you have with your MD, the truth is , what you did is bad, how can you let yourself fall prey, what happened to integrity and dignity? what happened to having hope? Even if there is no job in the country, you just have to be hopeful…. you betrayed your bf, go for STI test, I hope you are okay and try to come out clean with your bf, trust me he will be hurt and be ready for the outcome…retrace your steps dear,..peace…..

  2. Why are you messing with your life?! why ! why!! why!!! Pleaseee! Before things really get out of control, do the needful: resign!
    Your fiance should nOt know the details now because you ll further complicate your life. Besides , youre are having pre marital S.e.x together too ,so hes guilty. But despite that, if he gets to know, he wont pity you and your predicaments as you’re thinking. Let me tell you, he may never trust you in marriage . you will be in soup with him cos he ll taunt you with the confession forever. its abortion (right under his nose) we are talking about here!
    The love of money, the fear of unknown is what is keeping you in the mess . please break out of it asap. Abortion is a sin. PLs, ask God to have mercy on you and give you a happy home and children from your loins..
    please take the bull by the horn and end things with the MD asap.
    Tis well.

  3. You are a woman,tell your man you need to take a break from work,tell him you wanna start up your own business,that you have saved up enough money for the business. God bless you my love,there is no need condemning you because I love you so much. You are such a wise babe,I too love you, resign peacefully and start up your own biz. If it was to be other babes,they will keep enjoying the money and might even go diabolical in the process,so that the man can marry them. You have conscience my dear,your marriage is blessed,amen

  4. Dear Poster,

    You have clean up to do…

    #1 Discontinue any affair with the MD. He is married, respect that. Please, avoid a repeat in the future. Your decision to resign is OK.

    #2 Reconcile with God and live right

    #3 The choice to come clean with your fiance is on you. I know you will want to shy away from the obvious  –  a break up or no trust in the marriage, if you disclose the details to him. Either way, you’ve sowed a seed, expect a harvest. I pray God shows you mercy.

    Take note of the following:

    #1 Processing is bigger than result. Your 2M can’t cover your shame, can it? The guilt of your action is killing you. Can the 2M rescue your conscience? These are the obvious we can see and sense, how about the spiritual repercussions that may follow or manifest in due time? God can only maintain that which He blesses. Can we say so of the 2M?

    #2 You can’t take temptations and challenges off life, not possible. The question is, with what attitude do you approach it? The easiest route, most often is not the best. I pray God gives you wisdom and makes you fit.

    #3 In difficult situations; no money, no job, sickness, homelessness etc, run to God, He will surely see you through. John 16:33

    God bless you.

  5. Continuation….

    Come to think of it, I seriously doubt if you love your fiance. You rubbished the marriage even before it started.

    How about if the MD proposes to marry you. What will be your decision?

    Know this, love born of heart can’t be destroyed.

    Search your heart. Marriage is not a bed of roses. Are you really ready.?

    Peace

  6. Are u supposed to be sleeping with ur bf ? The answer is No. Are u sure ur bf is not also cheating? U never can tell.
    Stop sleeping with ur bf and sure stop sleeping with ur MD.
    It is suprising that u feel guilty sleeping with ur MD and not with ur bf.Thats the power of the mind cos for u so long it is my bf it is not wrong.

    For me, just like ur MD is aware that u are sleeping with ur bf then inform ur bf that u are sleeping with ur MD.
    Then if u wish to stop sleeping with ur MD then u must stop sleeping with ur bf till after marriage.
    S.e.x is for Marriage and not for one bf or one MD.

    Thanks

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